Switching drs(long and maybe boring to most)
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Switching drs(long and maybe boring to most)
Actually I do not want to switch drs, my husband does. My 6 yr old wears glasses, she has for the last 2 yrs. We took her to an eye dr, which is an MD(refered to us by her ped).She had one eye that turned in. Anyways, they also found out she could not see up close either. We never knew. Anyways, she got glasses and wore them all the time, and still does. They have broken a couple of times, but all in all, its been a good experience for her to have the glasses. With the way the crazy insurance company works. They will be for her eye dr visits, but they will only pay for glasses from certain places. Believe it or not, they will not pay for the glasses from the optical dept at the eye drs. We still cant figure this out. Anyways, we found another place to get her glasses, and its actually close by. This place(the one we get her glasses from)has an OD there, not an MD.. We did not have to be patients of theirs to get glasses so it worked out fine.
My daugheter goes to the eye dr every 6 months. Around Dec we noticed that her eye doesnt turn in when her glasses are off. I thought what a great improvement the glasses are working. Me and my husband both knew that she also has the problem of not seeing close up. I have never thought of her not wearing her glasses. But, my husband, is how do I say it, a real "Know it all". He kept commenting how good her eye looks now and she doesnt need glasses anymore. I kept asking him where he got his eye dr degree. He kept telling me to take her back to the eye dr(the MD)and tell him she doesnt need them anymore. I said I will not do that, she has an appt in Feb, she was just seen in Sept and that I trust his judgement.
So In Dec my daughter needed her glasses adjusted because she is so wild, shes always needing an adjustment because she bends them. So My husband takes her to the eye glass place that is in the OD's office. He comes back and tells me he paid the office visit for the OD to look at my daughters eyes, and said the OD thinks her glasses are too strong for her, and need to be adjusted. He actually went as far as ordering her new glasses..YES, to say I was mad was an understatement.
When the new glasses came in, they actually did not seem any different to me or my daughter, but she is wearing them. I told my husband he(The OD) is not her regular dr, and she goes to a eye Specialists office etc.. That Im glad he got that out of the way(meaning thinking that he is always right and knows everything)but I will not be taking her to that OD anymore.
Anyways, her appt with the regular eye dr(MD)is this coming Tuesday. So I called my husaband at work and told him to go to the OD's office and get a copy of her records from when he saw her, because I want to bring them to the eye dr(MD)so he could see what was noted etc.. My husband then goes on to tell me that the dr has to request that. I told him I didnt think so , all they have to do is make a copy of her record from her only one visit there. I went on to say I can go to their peds office and get a copy of their records at any time, and I have done it for school. So he tells me he will go after work but he feels uncomfortable about asking them for it.
UGH.. this whole thing makes me uncomfortable because I have to take her on Tuesday for her scheduled appt and explain to the eye dr what my husband has done.
Im sorry, I just really needed to vent about this.
I really dislike being married to a know it all.
I just think hes crazy for doing this.
Well, actually I don't think a second opinion is ever bad. I also don't think that your doctor that your going to on Tuesday should be in any way upset about what your dh did. I would show him what the other doctor said and ask his opinion on everything. It also might be a good idea for your dh to go along and actually hear what the dr has to say about her eye(s). It could very well be something that could return if he (your dh)continues to mess with her prescription. It might be good for your dh to hear everything explained first hand???
I totally agree a 2nd opinion is never bad.My problem with it is that he just automatically thinks the 2nd dr is the right one.
The 2nd eye dr requested records from the original eye drs office back in Dec. My husband said the OD made some negative comments when reading the records from the first eye dr. I guess maybe not negative, but not agreeing comments. So we will see how it turns out. I do want my husband to come with me to the appt. He normally doesnt go because he normally stays home with Faith. I think we all will be there Tuesday though.
LOL.. Wouldn't you just crap if your dh turns out to be right. LOL You should call the doctor ahead of time and tell him to side with you. LOL
My thinking is that one dr is not right and the other is wrong. I think its just a matter of opinion between the 2 drs.
Jackie, my son was born cross-eyed and has had 5 eye surgeries. He was wearing bifocals @ 15 months of age! He wore glasses until around age 9 or 10, and hasn't needed them since for vision correction. The eye muscle problem is another thing - it is a hereditary thing in my family, and they've basically done all they can do for him, and his one eye still drifts or turns in.
However - all that being said, even if your DD's *lazy* eye problem has been corrected, that has nothing to do with nearsightedness or farsightedness. Your eyes do tend to change over time, either getting better or worse. So it's reasonable that her eyes could have improved some, therefore she'd need a different prescription.
BUT - if I were you, I'd continue to see the opthamologist, rather than an optometrist, so keep that upcoming appointment. I know people who have had 3 or 4 different prescriptions over a 12 month period because their eyesight changed so rapidly.
Karen, I plan on seeing the opthamoligist. I mean she has been seeing him for the last 2 years. My husband did come home with the records from the OD's office. I know he wasnt happy about going over there. I realize eyes change and all that.
I will take all the paperwork on Tuesday and discuss with the MD what he thinks. I know its just going to come down to a matter of opinion.
It's a good idea to take the records from the other doctor with you. Are you comfortable with the one she's been seeing?
Yes, Im comfortable with the eye dr(MD)she has been seeing. Of course she is must first child with glasses/eye problems. But, so far nothing he had told me seemed so unreasonable.
Jackie, I know I posted a brief description of the difference between an opthalmologist, an optometrist, and an optician in your earlier thred on this subject, so I won't repeat myself.
I wonder if maybe your dh has some self-image issues tied up with *his* daughter wearing glasses and having weak eyes. And, by the way, he was a good guy for going over and getting the records when he didn't really want to. He gets some props (as my son would say) for that.
It does boil down to a matter of opinion - as to which doctor's opinion is more likely to be better. I must say, I am not comfortable with what you describe as the manner in which the OD so freely criticized the M.D. That seems a bit less than professional, imo. But, maybe he had what he saw as good medical reasons for doing so. One thing to be aware of is that some doctors (of whatever level of training or speciality) get hobby-horses, and get themselves caught up in a particular method of treatment that they sometimes try to apply in situations where it isn't appropriate. I know there are a lot of different schools of thought and treatment circulated about children and eye/vision problems, some make sense to me and some don't.
I think Vicki's suggestion that your dh go with you and dd to the opthalmologist and hear things first hand is a very good idea, if it can be managed.
I've worn glasses since I was 8; one of my sons has worn glasses since he was about 3-1/2, and I've never regretted it in either instance.
Yeah, I would suggest you both go together to the opthalmology appointment and your DH can grill the doctor and hopefully have his questions answered. My oldest son is the only one in the family who wears glasses so it is a whole new experience to me too and I am always skeptical if he really needs them or they are just trying to make a buck. However he is much older and can give us insight into really how impaired his eyesight is without his contacts or glasses.
Hope you get a good report and please be sure to update us.
I've been wearing glasses, since I was 5. I know the glasses have always helped me see better, and I still definitely need to wear them now! I would have trouble reading the computer screen without them!
My daughters have both been wearing glasses, since they were about 10. DH wears glasses, too, but I can't remember now, when he got his, maybe around 4th grade.
One time I got new glasses and I made a comment about being able to see the electric wires. I guess I hadn't been able to see them, with the previous prescription.
just wondering if i missed it or how the dr appt went when u went back to it
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