Hubby gets home sometime around 1am. Then he putters on the computer for a little while, or attempts to watch tv, or read a magazine. In reality, if he tries to read or watch tv, he falls asleep right away, though. So, anyway, several hours go by, of him sleeping in the basement. Then something wakes him up, so he comes upstairs to actually go to bed. Some nights, this never disturbs me and other times it does. Lately, it's been waking me up, more than not.

So, I go to the bathroom, crawl back in bed, but I don't always get to go back to sleep, since he is already asleep and snoring. Argh. So, I end up going out on the couch and though I do fall back to sleep, my sleep has had a major interruption and I don't feel as rested in the morning.

Not really looking for solutions, just need to whine. I keep thinking we should take him to the doctor and have him evaluated for sleep apnea, too, since somtimes he doesn't seem to breathe very well, when he's sleeping. It gets very shallow and then he has the loud, snorty snore, to get breathing again. It's annoying and scary all at the same time!

It also doesn't seem to matter how he's sleeping, either. He can snore no matter how he's laying in bed! LOL!

By Jackie on Friday, February 24, 2006 - 08:06 am:

Ahhh I hear you on this. My husband had major snoring as well. After Faith was born, it came to a head. I could not deal with his snoring. For several months he slept downstairs on the sofa so I did not have to be woken up by him snoring. He went for a sleep study and they said he has a mild case of sleep apnea. He uses one of those machines, and now he is aloud to sleep uptairs again. Things are 100% better with the noise level at bedtime.

By Yjja123 on Friday, February 24, 2006 - 08:22 am:

My husband was diagnosed with sleep apnea. He can't stand the machine and will rarely wear it. It seems like I am always playing musical beds. I understand your pain.....and exhaustion!

By Janet on Friday, February 24, 2006 - 10:03 am:

Dh snores like a train going through the bedroom! I'm amazed that HE can sleep through the racket. Usually, I poke him and tell him to roll over, which he does, but it doesn't always help. There are nights when he stumbles off to the spare room, because my waking him up is keeping him from sleeping, LOL! I wonder, though...how can you sleep with one of those sleep apnea machines on? Aren't they cumbersome and uncomfortable?

By Breann on Friday, February 24, 2006 - 10:10 am:

My DH was pretty good at snoring for the first several years of our marriage. It was so annoying. I would get so frustrated because I could never fall asleep. I would go to bed earlier than him, just so I could get into a deep sleep and hopefully he wouldn't wake me up. He had sinus surgery a couple of years ago. Wow, what a difference. He never snores now unless he is sick with a cold. So lovely and peaceful now, hehe

By Karen~moderator on Friday, February 24, 2006 - 11:01 am:

Don't get me started on DH's snoring! UGH! Sometimes I just go sleep in another room. I told him it sounds like a zoo in the bedroom when he's snoring. I even made an mpeg of him with my Sony cam because he didn't believe me.

By Yjja123 on Friday, February 24, 2006 - 11:29 am:

The sleep apnea machine is much like wearing snorkel gear to bed. It is hard for me to get angry at hubby for not wearing it (though it IS a health issue). I know I couldn't sleep with it on. It took me weeks to get used to snorkeling because I felt claustrophobic with the mask on.

By Jackie on Friday, February 24, 2006 - 11:35 am:

My husband doesnt have any problems wearing his. Sometimes though, he will take it off sometime during the night if seems to be getting in his way. But, 95% of the time he wears it. I was so miserable when he was snoring, expecially after Faith was born. She had always been a horrible sleeper. So I was getting up with her every couple of hours, and Id try to get back to sleep only to lay there for an hour listening to that snoring.If I did manage to get back to sleep, then Faith would get up shortly after. It was a nightmare.

By Marcia on Friday, February 24, 2006 - 12:34 pm:

LOL Karen, I've thought about doing the same thing. I've started sleeping in the bottom bunk of one of my girl's beds. It's much quieter in there! One of my kids wakes up in the middle of the night almost every night, and needs meds to go back to sleep. It's bad enough that I have to get up for that. I do not like have to lie awake because of his snoring. It REALLY puts me in a crummy mood!! I've told him to mention it to the doc, but he never has.

By Dawnk777 on Friday, February 24, 2006 - 12:38 pm:

Sometimes he falls asleep on the couch in the basement, and never comes upstairs. Blissful quiet sleep! One night recently, I woke up when the alarm went off, he was wrapped tight against me snoring. Somehow I slept through that! LOL!

I think if he comes up, when I'm in a deep sleep, then I don't notice that he did that. Sometimes, he comes in and kisses me and I never wake up. I think it's when I'm cycling into lighter sleep, that it wakes me up more.

It's harder to get back to sleep, too, because at 4am, I'm not as tired as I was when I went to bed!

By Mrsheidi on Friday, February 24, 2006 - 02:16 pm:

With snoring, a lot of clinics will recommend weight loss. It usually does the trick. There are always other reasons too, but that's the first thing they'll tell him.
DH recently started to snore (in Jan), so he hit the gym faster than anyone I've ever seen!!

By Yjja123 on Friday, February 24, 2006 - 03:42 pm:

In my hubby's case it is a problem with his short neck. Surgery could correct it but so far we cannot get our insurance to approve it.

By Wandilu on Friday, February 24, 2006 - 08:14 pm:

My hubby has major bouts with snoreing,too.Especially when he was running the game room business for his dad,because of all the cigarette smoke.But,we have a deal with each other.If he startes snoreing really bad enough ,or simply can't sleep for any other reason,and he has to leave our bedroom,he cannot come back in.The reason for that is,I have a severe case of sleep apnea and fibromyalgia(which also has sleep issues).If I get woke up,it litally takes HOURS for me to go back to sleep!!I can't use the sleep apnea machine because it brought on asthma.And claustrophobia!!!

By Pamt on Friday, February 24, 2006 - 08:52 pm:

I'm married to a snorer too and some nights I just flip out about it. I hate forcing him to the couch because I know he can't help it, so after punching him half the night I sometimes end up on the couch. Ugh! It is usually better if I fall asleep before him, but we like to snuggle together and pillow talk before sleep so it is a catch-22. Sometimes I'll thump him and he'll tell me he wasn't even asleep so he can't be snoring. He just simply breathes loud though! He has a deviated septum and you can hear him working hard just to suck air in at rest like when he's watching TV or on the computer. I don't think he has apnea though because he doesn't stop breathing that I have noticed...when I'm awake from the snoring.

He has finally agreed to go see an ENT for surgery. The odds of surgery aren't great. I think it is about 70%, but it's worth a shot. It would probably be pretty major surgery because I am thinking that they would repair his deviated septum, he may have some tonsil and adenoid issues, plus they usually shave off some of the soft palate and uvula with a laser and scar up the posterior pharyngeal wall so it's not so floppy and doesn't vibrate as easily. I'm so torn because the snoring does create stress for both us, I get tired and irritated, and I know he has to be tired from not getting a good night's sleep. He can fall asleep at the drop of a hat. I just hate for him to have to undergone major surgery, but...

Anyway, when we finally get into the ENT I'll let you all know how it goes to give you some ideas. It is frustrating and miserable. Tonight DH is at a youth lock-in. Guess who will be sleeping well? ME!!!

By Yjja123 on Friday, February 24, 2006 - 11:41 pm:

Pam---please let me know how the surgery goes. My hubby does stop breathing. He went to a sleep clinic twice. They said he stops breathing several times throughout the night. I have heard him gasp for air. Our insurance has not approved the surgery though

By Dawnk777 on Saturday, February 25, 2006 - 06:17 am:

We can still be talking, and DH will snore, even then. I'll nudge him and he'll be like WHAT? I tell him he snored just a bit and he'll say "No, I didn't!" He never believes me!

Last night, I was watching a little tv before I went to sleep. Usually, I can notice that I'm tired and turn off the tv and the light, and go to bed. DH came up to bed around 1am. I had been wondering, in my sleep, why it seemed bright in my room. The light and the tv were still on. I had been asleep for about 2 hours, I think! LOL! Talk about tired! This happens often to DH, when he falls asleep in the basement and almost never happens to me!

By Karen~moderator on Saturday, February 25, 2006 - 09:14 am:

Sometimes I'll thump him and he'll tell me he wasn't even asleep so he can't be snoring. He just simply breathes loud though! He has a deviated septum and you can hear him working hard just to suck air in at rest like when he's watching TV or on the computer. I don't think he has apnea though because he doesn't stop breathing that I have noticed...when I'm awake from the snoring.

Pam, are you living my life??? LOL! This could be MY DH and me at nigh! Scary!

To make things worse, my DH has NOT stopped smoking (again), and has, in fact, started smoking regularly since he was working in Birmingham after Katrina - yes, the man is stupid - he wouldn't dare smoke in front of me, he knows I'd completely go off on him - we are coming up on the 6th anniversary of his heart attack - July 13 to be exact - and he was explicitly told by his cardio doc to stop smoking, but hey, men know it all, right? They are 10 feet tall, bullet-proof and invisible when it comes to disease. Sorry, you all know it's a sore point with me after caring for my mom with lung cancer - from smoking. Point - when he's smoking, he snores MUCH MUCH worse. Not to mention I can smell and taste it immediately. NOTE: I'm not condemning our members who smoke, it's your choice, but my DH has already had a heart attack at age 47 and has a family history of stroke, high blood pressure, blocked vessels, etc. in his immediate family, so what's the deal here? It *should* be a no-brainer.

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I've turned into *such* a nag about this and I hate myself for it, but to be fair, his snoring affects ME too! I have trouble sleeping under the best of circumstances and I'm a light sleeper, so the animal growling sounds that he makes keep me awake and I CAN'T sleep so I go into another room.

It just amazes me how he denies he's snoring. No amount of pushing/shoving/rolling him over solves the problem. Just proves that snoring is a SERIOUS problem for the person who sleeps next to the snorer as well.

By Dawnk777 on Saturday, February 25, 2006 - 12:21 pm:

Just proves that snoring is a SERIOUS problem for the person who sleeps next to the snorer as well.

That is so true! People always tell me that I should make him move to another room, but when he is sound asleep, and I'm not, I'm not going to wake him up and make him move. Once in a great while, my bumping him does wake him up and he does move, himself, but usually it's just me awake.

If one or the other of us is sick, we usually sleep apart. DH doesn't smoke, but I know that alcohol makes it worse! If he had a couple of beers in the evening, I know I'm in for it. I wonder if his neck and throat muscles are even more relaxed, then.

By Alberobello on Sunday, February 26, 2006 - 05:29 pm:

Dawn, my dh works mights too so i can sympathise with you. I usually go to my son's bedroom and sleep in the lower bunk just like Marcia, it's nice and warm, comfortable (my own bed is too firm) and above all, quiet!

It is a bit annoying though, because i can never sleep a proper night's sleep, sometimes is him, waking me up more than once, or the cat, to let him out of the window...my son is the only one who behaves well at night!

By Dawnk777 on Sunday, February 26, 2006 - 11:26 pm:

LOL! The dog usually leaves me alone. If I get up to use the bathroom, I usually take her out, too. If I sleep the whole night, she is fine then, too.