I am going to post this anon since I dont want to have my name googled and come up here. But I am the one with 4 boys living in oregon. During sex about 1 in 4 times my hip feels like someone has jabbed a knife in it and I cant move without help to "unlock" it. Needless to say this is putting a rather large "cramp" (lol) in things. I have tried every position know to man or woman . My doc has his practice here in town, and since there are only 2700 of us, it isnt unusual to meet up with him on the street. Which is my problem, I cant bring myself to make an appointment and saying "hey, during sex my hip goes out" and then meeting him up on the street kwim. And I cant come up with any other senerio where I could describe the pain without the event. I am only 37 and really shouldnt be having this sort of trouble this soon, which scares me because I am an active go-getter sort of person. I have my annual with a nurse midwife in march, do you think that I can just go through her? Do you think that she will be able to refer me to somebody to help? Any suggestions? TIA

By Happynerdmom on Thursday, January 5, 2006 - 12:39 pm:

Well, if you absolutely feel like you can't talk to your doctor, I guess it wouldn't hurt to call the nurse midwife and ask her opinion. But, honestly, I really think you should just suck it up and ask your doc. What's the point of having a doctor if you can't discuss your medical problems? I can pretty much guarantee HE won't feel awkward...it's his job! Plus, I'm pretty sure he's figured out that you are sexually active!

By Feona on Thursday, January 5, 2006 - 01:38 pm:

You should be able to talk to the doctor. This sort of stuff happens to alot of women. It is not embarressing at all. I have heard much worse.

By Kittycat_26 on Thursday, January 5, 2006 - 03:08 pm:

It's easy to say that you shouldn't be embarassed but it's not so easy to feel. I work with alot of doctors and there is no way I'd see one of them and have to explain some things to them. It is their job and they probably don't care; however, it would still be hard.

That being said, your nurse midwife should be able to help you out. She may not be able to make the (official) referral, if your insurance requires one though. She is still a good place to start and see what she thinks.

By Truestori on Thursday, January 5, 2006 - 04:51 pm:

Try and make sure you are really relaxed during sex. Sometimes woman tend to tense up during sex and not even realize it. It could also be that your husbands hips are wider than yours so it can cause discomfort. I would definitly talk to your doctor, you may need x-rays, arthritis can sometimes cause this feeling also.

By Juli4 on Thursday, January 5, 2006 - 05:28 pm:

I have had that happen a time or two, but not on a regular basis. It almost felt like something was out of place. You can try stretching some. I don't know. That is all I have.

By Crystal915 on Thursday, January 5, 2006 - 09:49 pm:

None of the positions have been more comfortable? Perhaps spooning position, or flat on your belly? Something where your hips aren't spread much? Maybe you could take a joint supplement like glucosamine? I'm sorry this has been so difficult for you, it must be very frustrating. (((Hugs)))