My friend told DH that DD may be asked to be in his wedding in April. She will have just turned 3 in March. There would be one other flower girl who is "about the same age." As cute as I think it would be I'm worried that she might be too young for that. What do you think?

By Missmudd on Thursday, September 22, 2005 - 06:29 pm:

I guess it matters what the bridal parties expectations are. She probably could make it down the isle holding a basket of flowers if you were waiting for her at the first pew or if she held the hand of a bridesmaid. If the bride and groom are aware that she may back out at the last minute because she got too shy or decided to clobber the other flower girl over the head with the basket or any other number of mishaps I think it would be ok to say yes. If they dont have any idea how children are than I would say no. I guess it matters if they are looking for the "perfect" wedding. Also are you going to go completely bonkers worrying about your daughters performance, then I would say no too.

By Crystal915 on Thursday, September 22, 2005 - 07:28 pm:

I think that's an appropriate age to be a flower girl. As long as she can walk down the aisle, and toss a few petals she should be just fine. If you decide to let her do it, why not practice a few times before the wedding. I know my DD is a total girly girl, so she would love the idea of wearing a pretty dress, everyone watching her smile and drop flowers!

By My3cuties on Thursday, September 22, 2005 - 07:56 pm:

Yes I think that is appropriate age also. My neice was a flower girl at that age and it was adorable. She did so good. And it would be something to watch on video later and get a kick out of because chances are she will do something cute. lol

By Kolbysmom on Thursday, September 22, 2005 - 08:10 pm:

My son was a ring bearer in a wedding at 2. He did great. Something that helped...one of the groomsman kept a stash of sweet tarts in his pocket to give him throughout the ceremony and to get him down the aisle.

By Imamommyx4 on Thursday, September 22, 2005 - 09:35 pm:

My niece had a wedding with four 2 yo's in it. DD was one of them and did great. The other little girl did wonderfully in rehearsal but got mad about someting at the wedding and wouldn't go down the aisle. The little boys were twins-one did great and one went but cried the whole way.

It just depends on the kid and the motivation. Dd loves her cousin dearly and wanted to 'do her good.'

And the bridal party need to have a sense of humor and realize anything can go with toddlers involved.

By Rayanne on Thursday, September 22, 2005 - 10:10 pm:

My cousin was my flower girl when she was one month shy of 2 years old. She did awesome!!! I think that your DD will be fine.

By Reds9298 on Friday, September 23, 2005 - 12:26 am:

I think it's appropriate. My ring bearer was just 3 and did a great job, and my flower girl was 2 1/2 and freaked out. She never made it down the aisle and would only pose for pictures for quarters, LOL! I think it depends on the kid, but if she is prepped and knows what to expect, she'll be fine. I gave my ring bearer (my nephew) a special toy for being such a big boy.

By Kellyj on Friday, September 23, 2005 - 06:35 am:

Thanks everyone. I think she'll do just fine. I will just have to prep her really well and make sure that the bride knows that since she is a toddler unexpected things could happen. I'm glad to hear that kids this young don't always freeze when they see all of those people staring at them. DH will be the best man so hopefully when she spots him it won't be a mad dash to daddy!