Why do my parents think I have no sense. As an earlier post, I stated we are in the process of adopting a rescue dog, who is heartworm positive. Me and my husband agreed we would take her and get the treatment done. I told my mom (on the phone)about her, as she knew we were looking for another dog. She said "Oh you really want a dog with this problem?"....URG.....this gets my blood boiling. Im 40 yrs old, Ive had dogs all my life, I take care of other peoples dogs. Ive researched this topic, talk to others who have gone through this. Yet, my mother feels that Im not capable of making a decision on this dog. Then she goes on to say well "can you give it back if you dont want it?".. I calmly say why would I give her back. She just spent 3 hrs today with us, fit in well.I watched for everything, how she interacted with the kids andmy other dog. She didnt have any accident in the house etc.".. So my mother goes on to say she meant can we give her back if she has too many accidents in the house..again URG... I said the only way I would give away any dog is if bite my children or was agreesive in nature. I told her if the dog had a housetraining problem or any other mild problem,we would work to correct it. Not give her back..
I dont think I come across as somebody who has no common sense, expecially when it comes to dogs.
I also had a friend, who made a comment about the dog being heartworm positive, and she probably wouldnt want that..Its treatable, and dogs go on to lead a normal life.

By Juli4 on Tuesday, August 2, 2005 - 10:15 am:

For some reason our parents want to protect us and their concern and desire to not see us fail or get hurt comes across as criticism. My in laws do the same thing. Everything we want to do they doubt up until we do it or accomplish something then they are happy and proud but the whole way there, they are negative ninnies. It is frustrating to no end.

By Mommmie on Tuesday, August 2, 2005 - 10:36 am:

Maybe she's concerned about you taking on too much responsibility - not that you have no sense, but that you are overextending yourself. (Not saying you are!)

By Tink on Tuesday, August 2, 2005 - 11:33 am:

My mom does this too. She questions and re-questions any decisions we make without considering that I may have done the research into it before ever making a decision. I do think it's out of concern but it would be nice to just have a few words of support, rather than the arguments and negativity. I think it's great that you are taking on a dog that others might not bother with. I'm glad she fit in so well with your family and your other dog. I think it's been a somewhat recent idea that we keep a dog, regardless of the behavior problems, unless they are agressive. I'm not sure that dogs were considered worth the bother of training out bad behaviors. Let us know when you get your new family member.

By Lorebunde on Tuesday, August 2, 2005 - 11:47 am:

I take it that maybe your mom is not a "dog" person? My mom talks that way about dogs that they are pest, dirty, etc. Where some people are very loving towards all animals? She probably doesn't even realize she is bugging you?

By Jann on Tuesday, August 2, 2005 - 12:57 pm:

I wouldn't take it so personally or as insulting. I wouldn't adopt an animal if I knew right from the start there might be health issues. I get too emotionally attached, plus raising animals are expensive anyway, I wouldn't want any extra vet bills. Btw, I have 3 adopted dogs, so I am definitely an animal lover.

By Jackie on Tuesday, August 2, 2005 - 01:12 pm:

My parents have always owned dogs as well.They love dogs. They just see things differently then I do.
Right now with the pending adoption, we only pay the 100$(Adoption fee). The rescue group is paying for the heartworm treatment,shots,and upcoming spaying. She can not be fixed until the heartworms are treated.
In all reality, you never know what the health issues are with any pet. I had a 10 yr old black lab mix that died this past April due to cancer. We got her as a puppy, and who would of thought her death would be from cancer. When we got my puppy 10 yrs ago, if somebody said , "Well you know this dog may develope cancer, diabetes, thyroid problems, hip problems etc.. It wouldnt of detered me from adotping a dog then it and wont now.

By Mrsheidi on Tuesday, August 2, 2005 - 01:48 pm:

I would just tell her, "Well, I'll just send the dog to your house then!" That ought to change the subject...
Sorry you're going through this...wish there were more people like you!!