Ok, so why does being pregnant give people more of a right to make comments? I know people generally mean well and I don't usually get too offended....

This weekend we went to a fabulous party at my DH's boss's house. I felt like I looked cute in a linen sundress. Boy, oh boy, I got so many comments and people touching me! I never had that happen with my DD. If it's a friend or family member, I don't mind, but from a total stranger? Aggh!

The worst comment was Her:"How far along are you?" Me: "Five months" Her: "Wow! You are SO BIG!" Okedokee then. LOL! Then "You look like you are carrying a boy!" Does that mean I look wide? LOL! I don't get it.

Just had to share. Granted, I am not someone who carries weight well and I do look plump, but please don't tell me! I already know! LOL!

By Colette on Monday, July 25, 2005 - 07:54 pm:

lol Eve. Just let it slide. I am sure you look beautiful pregnant.

By Colette on Monday, July 25, 2005 - 08:15 pm:

ok - just did a google search and the funniest thing I saw - but I could never say this - is to say "my breasts are bigger too, did you want to touch them?"

that'll stop them dead it their tracks.

By Annie2 on Monday, July 25, 2005 - 08:16 pm:

I loved all of the attention I received when I was pregnant. Being visually pregnant is a topic of conversation, or an "ice- breaker", so to speak. It's a positive vibe for people, especially older women, just take it with a grain of salt and enjoy it while it lasts. I think it would be a lot worse for someone to comment on my pregnancy if I WASN'T pregnant! LOL

I always interpretted the "carrying a boy" meant the person was only carrying in the front. Being wide with a bigger butt would mean "carrying a girl". This was that person's form of flattering you!

By Annie2 on Monday, July 25, 2005 - 08:17 pm:

Colette, that's too funny!

By Trina~moderator on Monday, July 25, 2005 - 08:53 pm:

ROFL, Colette! Yes, that would certainly shut them up but I don't think I'd have the nerve to say it. LOL!

Eve, I thought you looked GREAT in the sundress you were wearing at the grocery store last weekend. You don't look "plump"! You have that healthy, pregnant glow going on!

By Dawnk777 on Monday, July 25, 2005 - 10:30 pm:

I bet you looked great! I swear in the same day once, someone thought I wasn't that big at all and someone else thought I was huge! Sheesh!

People always thought I was carrying a boy, the first time! I thought it was because my butt was big, but I really don't know! What I do know, is that Sarah is an awfully funny-looking boy! LOL!

By Karen~moderator on Monday, July 25, 2005 - 11:35 pm:

ROFLMBO Colette! I love that one!

Eve, don't let it get to you - enjoy this pregnancy, even if you *do* look plump. Weight can be lost, what's important is that you are happy and healthy and having a healthy pregnancy. Some people have no manners or breeding, it seems.

By Tink on Monday, July 25, 2005 - 11:38 pm:

Eve, I think you need to post a pregnancy picture so we can all tell you how beautiful you look pregnant. It never bothered me to be told I was humongous or touched. I just figured that people are rude about everything else, why should pregnancy change that? The worst for me was when I was pregnant with my second and EVERYONE told me I was going to have twins since I was so huge, all belly. Nope, just 9 1/2 pounds of baby boy!

By Brandy on Tuesday, July 26, 2005 - 07:39 am:

I've been thinking about you eve and wondering how you have been doing = ) ...people are so rude sometimes but it hurts alot worse i think when your not pregnant and someone says so when are you due um about 6 years ago is what i told her lol = ) ...she was like oh i'm sorry your coat is just big i guess lol = ) sure uh huh

By Deek on Tuesday, July 26, 2005 - 07:41 am:

My daughter's mother in law said to her.."you must be carrying a boy because you are so fat..and that's how I looked when I had my boys." #1...my daughter looked beautiful the entire time she was preganant..never got that "bloated" look and #2 ..she had a girl ( the delight of my life!!) Her mother in law was in some strange way jealous of her being pregnant and said many things to try to make her feel bad...I just told my daughter to blow it off and focus on giving us a healthy first grandchild! some people though...they do think a pregnant belly is public property!

By Ginny~moderator on Tuesday, July 26, 2005 - 08:49 am:

You know, when I was growing up (in the dark ages), my mother taught me that it was rude to make personal comments, especially to a stranger.

By Juli4 on Tuesday, July 26, 2005 - 09:24 am:

It is hard not to notice a pregnant woman. I too find myself wanting to ask her questions and stuff and I find myself wanting to touch her belly although I never do. I never mention it or anything like that. And I certainly never touch another womans stomach especially someone I don't know very well. Some people just don't think and then the comments that mother in laws make can be very rude. For some reason I think some of them feel like another woman is coming in and stealing the spotlight or something like that. I too had to endure bad comments and still do.

By Insaneusmcwife on Tuesday, July 26, 2005 - 09:45 am:

LOL Collette I wish I had that come back when I was having my babies.

By Babysitbarb on Tuesday, July 26, 2005 - 10:22 am:

When I was pregnant I was always told if you get big all over and carry it high it's a girl and if you only gain it up front and carry it low it's a boy. These wise tells drive me nuts.
I did carry my first one high and I got big all over and I had a girl.
2nd pregnancy I carried it very low and only got big up front and I had another girl. So I proved the theory back then wrong.
One of the ladies I abbysit for had a lady tell her a few weeks before she delivered that a big back side means a boy and she said well you didn't see my back side before pregnancy. She did have a Boy but, I think it was just a lucky guess.
I wouldn't tell a pregnant woman she looks big no matter what size she is. No woman wants to hear that.

By Dawnk777 on Tuesday, July 26, 2005 - 12:06 pm:

You really can't make assumptions on size, anyway. I have seen women, who look so little and they are on the verge of delivery and women who look huge, who still have 3 months to go! Everyone is different and no one can tell the sex of the baby, by how you are carrying it! *rolls eyes*! Geez, do they have ultrasound vision, or something? (okay, my pet peeve!)

By Mrsheidi on Tuesday, July 26, 2005 - 12:17 pm:

The only time I hated it when people touched my belly, was when I was a week overdue. My belly hurt enough as it was and it was SO sensitive to touch.

I worked with teenagers and talk about having NO sense of when a child is due! A lot of my old students from the fall would stop by my classroom to say "hi" to me as I had hall duty. Almost every one of them said, "Wow, any day now!" I was only 6-7 months. And, all of them would touch my belly. I didn't mind it because I wanted them to feel him kick. It was really neat!

But, yes, I do agree...never make any "big" comments...ever.

By Frasersmama on Tuesday, July 26, 2005 - 05:46 pm:

Colette,
Would you believe that when I was about 4 months pregnant, a nursing instructor on the floor where I work as a nurse (who I hardly knew) found out I was pregnant and said "Oh, that's it! I knew there was something different, your breasts are much bigger" Huh?

By Eve on Wednesday, July 27, 2005 - 08:01 am:

LOL, Colette!

Thanks, everyone. I wasn't fishing for compliments, but thank you. I just think if a man got a big beer belly suddenly, would people come up and touch him? No way! LOL! I don't mind people touching my belly, but I atleast have to know you! I would never touch a stranger like that! JMHO.

Ok, now comments about your breasts would be bad too! I would not be pleased with that one! LOL!

By Heaventree on Wednesday, July 27, 2005 - 04:09 pm:

You know I never really got a lot of comments or touching. What I do get is "looks" when I'm out with Matthew. People look at my face, then my belly then Matthew, then at my face, then my belly then Matthew. On and on it goes. I just want to hold up a sign that says "No, I didn't waste anytime in getting pregnant again as if it's any of your business anyway!"

By Clarabel on Wednesday, July 27, 2005 - 08:38 pm:

My favorite was being asked if I was 7 months when I was only 4.And this time too, in the beginning, everyone asking me if I was having twins. I was even convinced I was having twins.

They are just jealous.Let's see some pictures!

By Cocoabutter on Thursday, July 28, 2005 - 06:01 pm:

0h, it won't be over when you have the baby either.

For months after my son was born, I was asked when I was due. -?

Especially when I wore baggy clothes.