Anybody feel extremely sad when they knew they had their last baby? Or sad when they were pregnant with their last? Faith is my last baby. Iknow 3 is the right amount of children for us. Even though I love being pregnant, I feel are family is complete. My husband got fixed in October.
I just feel sad that I will never be pregnant again, I will never feel a baby kick inside of me. I think because Faiths 1st birthday is approaching in August. I remember how excited I was at this time a year ago, looking at things to buy for the new baby, planning,a nd organizing.
Im so blessed to have her in my life, as well as my other kids. I just feel an overwhelming sadness I will never be pregnant again.
Sometimes I get anxiety thinking about all of this.
Does anybody else feel the same way?

By Amecmom on Wednesday, July 13, 2005 - 12:37 pm:

Oh yes! I see a newborn and get all nostalgic and want to convince my husband that three is a magic number, but I don't because we agreed to two for some very good reasons, and I don't want to make him feel bad.
I do find myself so much more engaged with Helen even during my pregnancy and the delivery. I know it's the last time I will experience any of this, so I want to savor and enjoy every moment!
When I get all anxious, I think of what I'm going to do when they are both in school. I think of the places I'll be able to go and the things I'll be able to do when they're grown.
Another baby would make all of this quite impossible, especially financialy.
I also think of having to put three kids in carseats or shopping carts, and cringe!
So yes, your feelings are normal. Enjoy your little Faith as much as you can, and try to nip the anxiety in the bud by doing something to take your mind off the "never agains"
Hugs
Ame

By Trina~moderator on Wednesday, July 13, 2005 - 12:43 pm:

At times, yes, but then I remind myself that I would have to deliver via c-section again and how thankful I am for being able to sleep through the night on a regular basis and not have to deal with diapers, etc.. For me, the hardest part is facing my mortality and realizing the baby making chapter of my life is closed. Bittersweet, yes, but my kids are still young and have a long way to go before DH and I are empty nesters. We plan on cherishing all of it every step of the way.

By Kay on Wednesday, July 13, 2005 - 01:38 pm:

I think that feeling is pretty normal. When my third baby was 9 months old, I had to have a hysterectomy. I really cherished her babyhood, knowing I wouldn't be experiencing that again with my own.

By Ilovetom on Wednesday, July 13, 2005 - 02:15 pm:

Well, for me it's letting them go. My oldest is in college and is *busy*. I am happy he is there and want the best for him.

My girls have 2 more years of high school. And that's it. Where did the time go?

I miss pee wee football. Trick or treating. Santa.

By Missmudd on Wednesday, July 13, 2005 - 02:40 pm:

I still look at #4 with a little bit of a misty look and he is 4 yo. But I am enjoying no more diapers, bottles, breastfeeding. Already am feeling more independant of the kids, they can entertain themselves and I dont have to watch them all the time. I guess my biggest trial is getting rid of too small of clothes. There was always a smaller one to grow into the outgrown clothes. I have a hard time putting zach's outgrown things into a bag and sending them to the salvation army.

By Dawnk777 on Thursday, July 14, 2005 - 12:06 am:

First let me say that I'm 45 and really don't want another baby anymore! However, it was so cool to BE pregnant and feel kicks and then to nurse them after they are born and sometimes I'm a little sad that that is done with.

Maybe my daughters will live close enough to be together during a pregnancy and they will let me touch their bellies, huh? (When the time is right!)

By Feona on Thursday, July 14, 2005 - 06:44 am:

Just concentrate on the reasons you stopped. I am sure they are very good reasons.

By Fraggle on Thursday, July 14, 2005 - 06:56 am:

I feel like that sometimes, too. I miss being pregnant sometimes. Although it is usually short-lived. My girls are 4 and 6 now and I am really enjoying the stage we are at now. We just took our canoe out for the first time in seven years. We can plan hikes and no one has to be pushed or carried. I get a full nights sleep and I haven't bought diapers or swim pants in a year.:-)

By Heaventree on Thursday, July 14, 2005 - 07:22 am:

So I'm at 32 weeks and in the middle of a heatwave with a child who is 16 months old, wanna trade places? I'm so tired of changing stinky diapers already and last night was the first night in days that I have been able to sleep thru the night in my own bed.

I have acid reflux, tennis elbow and Restless Leg Syndrome all pregnancy induced.

My hormones are so out of wack that the cat threw up in the bed the other day and I almost had a nervous break down.

When I'm out in public and the baby moves people ask me if I'm ok. Feels like there's a bowling ball with arms and legs in there.

It's good to hear the other end of spectrum, it helps remind me that I might miss all this stuff some day.

There have been a lot of posts lately about babies and baby fever, here is an open invitation. There will be a brand new baby here come 1st week September and you are all invited to come and spend a week with me! You can change diapers, cuddle and rock this little baby until your hearts are full and content. Any takers?

By Jackie on Thursday, July 14, 2005 - 08:25 am:

You know as I wrote this post yesterday, Faith is now 11 months old.She STILL DOES NOT sleep through the night. If I was given the opportunity, I would still love to do this again.

By Dana on Thursday, July 14, 2005 - 09:58 pm:

My mom is 75 an STILL wishes for more babies. She tells me it never does go away. Let me tell you she was as pleased as punch to have DS arrive this year. He will be our entire famly's (not just DH and mine) last baby until great grand kids come along.

By Reds9298 on Thursday, July 14, 2005 - 10:41 pm:

Hang in there Heaventree!

By Tink on Friday, July 15, 2005 - 01:35 am:

You know, I haven't felt that way since my third was born. She's four now and I enjoy babies. I love to spend time with my friends' infants and my new nephew but I don't have that "hunger" that I remember feeling after the other two were born. I think I really am finally comfortable with the size of our family. Of course, I may not feel this way in ten years.

And I've noticed that I've noted all the little things more with my last, knowing I wouldn't go through it again. I was also more willing to let her stay the "baby" longer than I let the others. There was someone else that came along and stole that baby role from them.

By Lauram on Saturday, July 16, 2005 - 10:21 am:

No, I don't. The whole thing (getting pg, staying pg, post-birth NICU, behavior/genetic issues, etc, etc, etc.....) is TOO much for us. I felt the way you are feeling when we had one and had so much trouble having a second. Now that he's here- and is also a very difficult child to raise- I realize that I have no more to "give." We are definitely finished. I have no regrets, but also no hopes of having more.