I got an invitation for my 10 yr class reuinion the other day. I can't decide if I want to go or not. There is noone I am really looking forward to seeing, but noone I want to avoid (which is a good thing!) I am not one to approach someone (I have not seen in years) and start a conversation. I am horrible at that. I envision lots of conversations like this "HI! How are you? What have you been up to? Oh, i have been married for 7 yrs and have two kids. I am a stay at home mom." More pleasentries and then that awkward silence...."ok well, it's great to see you again......"

I have 4 friends that I have stayed in touch with since high school. I know one of them is going because she was the class secretary or something like that and she is organizing the reunion. I havn't found out if the others are going. But those other girls were friends and hung out with a lot more people than I did. I was (am) quiet. So even if they do go, i feel like I will still be sort of all alone.

But another part of me wants to go. Hey, it's something to do on a Saturday night! It might be fun catching up with some people. Perhaps if I have a few drinks to loosen up (not get drunk, just loose), it could be fun.

What do you think? Did you ladies go to your class reunions? If you didn't go, do you regret it?

By Jodes on Friday, June 24, 2005 - 09:54 am:

I never made it to my 10 year reunion, but I really really wanted to go! I was living in Tennessee at the time, and had just had my second child via c section, I graduated high school in California, so it would have been a long trip to take with a new born baby and a 2 year old, plus recovering from sugery. I was so bummed though, because I hadn't seen anyone since my wedding, which was 7 years earlier. I live in Idaho now, and I do keep in touch with 2 of my high school friends through phone and email, but I am determined to go to my 20 year reunion(ugh). If I were you, I would go, I think it would be so much fun to be with everyone again for a night. I guess for me it's different because I don't live in the same place that I graduated.

By Happynerdmom on Friday, June 24, 2005 - 10:21 am:

I didn't get to my 10th, but I went to my 15th and had a blast. (20th is this year! Yikes!) I say go. It's fascinating to see how people turn out! Remember, many of the people will be just as nervous as you. Practice some small talk, then go with confidence. You might make a new friend!

By Tonya on Friday, June 24, 2005 - 10:23 am:

My 10th is this August and I cannot decide if I want to go or not. I only talk to 2 people I went to school with and they are debating too. We hung out with the kids in the grade below us so we would be beter of going to their 10th next year. Good luck with your decision.

By Janet on Friday, June 24, 2005 - 10:29 am:

I had no desire to go to my 10th. In my opinion, not nearly enough time has passed (I had a lousy high school experience, can you tell? LOL) and people would pretty much be the same as they were then. I really, really wanted to go to my 20th, but I was out of state, and the timing/cost/etc was wrong. In 5 yrs it'll be my 30th, and I might. Thing is, most of my close friends in high school weren't in my class.
My dh is from the tiny town we now live in, and I think it's so funny that they have a reunion every 5 years...most everyone still lives here, and you see them every day anyway! I tease him all the time about that.

By Colette on Friday, June 24, 2005 - 10:29 am:

I just got my invite to my 20th. I haven't decided if I want to go or not. There are just a handful of people I would want to see, I hung out with either kids older or younger than me. I am still thinking about it.

By Kaye on Friday, June 24, 2005 - 10:34 am:

I have not got to a reunion. We had a small class and pretty much me and one other person did most of the work (i alsmost always got the ball rolling). Well since I haven't planned one, we haven't had one! I keep in touch with a handful of friends. If one was planned and it was convinient I would probably go. However for the most part now they consist of a hanging out at a football game (go friday nite lights), and it would just be too far to travel for that.

By Emily7 on Friday, June 24, 2005 - 10:37 am:

We went to my dh, but I didn't go to mine. I had just had Joe a few months before & we were dealing with his medical problems.

By Mrsheidi on Friday, June 24, 2005 - 10:41 am:

I L O V E D I T !!!
I went for 2 out of the 3 days, but STILL didn't have a chance to talk to everyone I wanted to! You'd be surprised how some never changed, some are just now blossoming, and how you will have SO much in common with people you never imagined you would!

I'm in charge of the 20 year reunion and I'm looking forward to it!! Plus, it was a good reason (and goal) to lose those extra pounds I had gained since I was married!

By Melanie on Friday, June 24, 2005 - 11:22 am:

We didn't have a ten year reunion, but our 15th is coming up next year. I am debating whether or not to go. I don't keep in touch with anyone and it would mean traveling from CA to NH to attend. Which is fine since I have a lot of family there. My school has a website and they post who is attending, so I think I will watch the guest list and see who is going to go before deciding. LOL. It's interesting that everyone here who said they went said they had a blast. That kind of pushes me toward wanting to go.

Sorry I am absolutely no help. LOL.

By Bellajoe on Friday, June 24, 2005 - 11:32 am:

LOL, that's ok these are pretty much mixed reviews. But, the people who said they went had a good time.

I wish i knew who was going to our reunion, that would help in my decision.

There were only like 100 people in my graduating class. Everyone knew everyone elses business. Sometimes that is a good thing, sometimes that is a bad thing.

By Tunnia on Friday, June 24, 2005 - 11:46 am:

I didn't go to mine because my reunion was a full weekend of events that weren't really kid friendly, I was exclusively breast feeding a two month old, and it was a five hour drive from where I live. It just didn't seem like it was worth the hassle although I would have enjoyed catching up with old friends that I have lost contact with over the years.

I may go to my 20th though.

By Andi on Friday, June 24, 2005 - 11:51 am:

Nope, it was on Dh's birthday 4 years ago. I had some friends that went and they had fun.

By Reds9298 on Friday, June 24, 2005 - 12:08 pm:

I helped plan and put together our 10th and of course then went. It was a GREAT time!!! We had such a big group of friends in high school and it was nice to see everyone that I hadn't seen in so long. I'm helping with the next one, too, which will probably be 20th. If you get there and decide you don't like it, just leave. At least you'll know if you go.

By Ilovetom on Friday, June 24, 2005 - 12:20 pm:

Yep! I went to the 10th and the 20th. Had a ball at both. It is amazing how people change!

By Missmudd on Friday, June 24, 2005 - 02:33 pm:

Didnt go to my 10th, might go to my 20th, I havent kept in touch with anyone so I dont know how it would go...

By Rayanne on Friday, June 24, 2005 - 02:48 pm:

My 10th is next year. I plan on going. I can't believe it has been almost 10 years already!!!

By Mrsheidi on Friday, June 24, 2005 - 05:33 pm:

I would just go...regardless of who else is going. You are going to be too busy chatting with those who DID come! It's such an exciting time!!

By Pamt on Friday, June 24, 2005 - 05:56 pm:

YES!!!! We went and had a blast. Of course, we have some motivation that others don't have. DH and I were high school sweethearts so we both know everyone in our class and therefore we don't have to deal with the awkward-spouse-doesn't-know-anyone stuff. Also, most of my classmates still live in my hometown, so my sister is good about letting me know what is going on with them. I have even kept in touch with a few teachers! I emailed my high school English teacher last year to let her know that I had been published and that DH and I thought about her when we went to Canterbury Cathedral and The Globe Theater. We emailed back and forth for awhile like peers and talked like adults. It was really cool. I also am really good about keeping in touch with about 15-20 different people, so absolutely I want to see them and visit with them. We have many close, close friends from high school and many of our friends also married each other. We have an unusually high percentage of HS sweetheart couples who married from our class. The really fun thing is that we did a lot of group dating and also went to dances and stuff with each other. We can sit around in a group and say to each others' spouses---"Do you remember when we went to Homecoming, Christmas dance, etc. together?" It's quite funny to look at dance pictures and see how we all swapped around in our group of close friends. Another fun thing about a reunion is realizing how much you NOW have in common with people you really didn't know in high school. You make a lot of new friends. It's also a blast to see what everyone looks like, who they married, etc. My best friend from high school was a grade ahead and just went to her 20th last week and emailed me Wed. She caught me up on a girl who was a major party-er and is now a SAHM with a toddler and preschooler and one girl who at 38 is a grandmother!! Wild horses couldn't keep me away!

For or reunion we had a casual adults only cocktail thing on Friday, a picnic at the park with kids on Saturday, and a formal dinner and dance at a hotel on Saturday. I was 12 weeks pregnant with DS #2, so I was looking "thick" and not really pregnant. I did wear maternity clothes though so everyone would know I was preggers and didn't totally let myself go *EG*. I had been a 5'9" 115 pounder in high school and wasn't quite that long and lean anymore.

My 20th is next year and I was class secretary so I need to get my butt in gear to start rounding up addresses. Go, go, go, and let us hear all about it!

By Dawnk777 on Friday, June 24, 2005 - 06:01 pm:

They had a 5-year reunion, but I didn't make it to that one. I did go to the 10th, 20th and 25th. There is a group of people I have sat with, at the last two, and as long as they are there, I would want to be there. I have a friend, who lives in Utah and she usually goes. It's the only time I ever get to see her! I will go to the 30th, 2 years from now, too! (has it really been almost that long?)

By Tink on Friday, June 24, 2005 - 08:21 pm:

I'm wondering how you found out about your reunions. I should have my tenth reunion this year but I haven't heard a thing about it. I've tried to look around online and found nothing there. I was from a very large school so there is a good chance that no one knew my married name or my address now. How were you "found" for an invitation or announcement?

By Bea on Friday, June 24, 2005 - 08:49 pm:

I just got invited to my 40th High School Reunion. I probably won't go. I attended one of the biggest high schools in the world. Cardinal Doughterty High School had a graduating class of almost 1600 kids the year I graduated. I went to my 10th reunion and found that the kids that were in our neighborhood were the ones we sought out there. Since all of us went to the same elementary school, we decided to have Saint Benedict reunions. I attended our 40th Elementary reunion and had a ball. We invited the 3 years before and after our year to join us. All the kids that were on my street growing up were there. It was a ball.

By Dawnk777 on Friday, June 24, 2005 - 08:56 pm:

I have just gotten invitations. They have managed to keep track of me! Of course, now the fact that I haven't moved in the last 9 years probably helps a bit. We had a website up for the last reunion, but it is down now. Maybe they will put one up for the 30th, for a while, too. I don't know. It was nice, because they had a message board, so those of us who wanted to contact each other, actually could. I'm too cheap to pay for Classmates.com

By Reds9298 on Friday, June 24, 2005 - 11:23 pm:

Tink - when we went searching, we called our classmates' parents, tried old addresses, and sent a flyer out to those we could find with a list of people we COULDN'T find to see if anyone knew anything about them. Our class was like 112 and there were about 5 people that we never found. We also posted an ad in the local paper. You could also probably call your old high school and ask who the class officers were your senior year. Those are the people who should be putting together your reunion, and even if they aren't, they should know who is.

By Melanie on Friday, June 24, 2005 - 11:26 pm:

LOL Tink. I went to a private school and I have received their newsletter every 4 or 6 months since I graduated. I don't know how they did it, but I received their newsletter at every dorm and apartment I have ever lived at...along with every soliciation for donations. I am now registered at my high school's website so I receive not only their snail mail but their e-mail as well. LOL. I know when and where my 15 year reunion will be even though actual letters have not yet been mailed. Ahhh, technology! LOL.

By Mommmie on Friday, June 24, 2005 - 11:46 pm:

Yes, I went to my 10 year, but I wish I hadn't. It was pointless. My class was too dang big (850) so I knew very few people there. I threw away the invitation to the 20 year without a second thought. The only people I still sometimes talk to are neighbors and we were neighbor friends, but not so much in school friends. I was on drill team, but didn't have any lasting friendships bec I wasn't particularly popular like the other drill team members.

By Brandy on Saturday, June 25, 2005 - 12:32 am:

Went to my 10th almost 2 years ago = ) and had an okay time once i stopped being so shy and actually walked around and talked lol actually alot of people changed quite abit and i had to ask who alot of them where = ) but it was okay i will probably go to my 15th if they have one too..next time i will take a camera lol one thing i didn't like much was i really wasn't into anything in high school so they had a big projector doing all the popular peoples pics on it during the whole time which wasn't me = ) but that's okay i guess....

By Jann on Saturday, June 25, 2005 - 12:06 pm:

I thought my 20th was much more fun. At 10, lots of people were still trying to prove themselves or still hung up on their high school roles. By the time the 20th roled around, everyone was pretty comfortable with themselves and just happy to see each other. BUT, I am glad I went to both.
I have my 25th college one coming up this fall (ack!!) but unfortunately can't go. Next year will be my 30th high school reunion....where does the time go??

By Kernkate on Saturday, June 25, 2005 - 12:18 pm:

I only attended my 5th reunion, which was kinda boring. Next year will be our 25th, so I am thinking of attending that. DH's 25th was suppose to be last weekend but they cancelled due to lack of people, so they are going to try for his in October. And he wants to attend that.

By Babysitbarb on Wednesday, June 29, 2005 - 09:24 am:

Yes, I went to my 10 year reunion and was really nervous about going but,ended up having a blast.
I have gone to my 5,10,15, and 20th. Boy does this make me feel old.

By Karen~moderator on Wednesday, June 29, 2005 - 09:31 am:

I didn't realize some schools held reunions every 5 years.

I missed my 10 year due to being on bedrest when pregnant with Jeff, missed my 20 year due to having emergency surgery, and didn't go to my 30 year, two years ago, because the only friend I have from my high school lives in another state and couldn't make the trip. *If* there's another one in the future and she can make it, we will go together; otherwise, I have pretty much no interest in seeing most of the people I went to high school with.

By Lorebunde on Wednesday, June 29, 2005 - 10:40 am:

I did go to my 10th but thats it. My 30th will be in 2 years, I probably won't go to that either. I remember one of the guys said, " I can see you still have your girlish figure". Well, I was only 28, I hope so! Most of the guys were pot bellied and bald. The girls looked better.