I was wondering how many of you are no longer on good terms with your childs godparent? I was best friends with this woman for years and she had agreed to be my dd godmother. My daughter is now 8, 2nd grade and just had her 1st communion. I did not invite her as we really do not speak anymore. I had sent her a xmas card and never heard anything. After speaking with others it seems this is a common thing. Her godfather never bothers and hasn't for years. Last year on her 7th bday, godmother came to party, and it seemed like old times. We were supposed to get together but she cancelled and that was it. She does not have any children and I guess she just doesn't want to bother.

By Reds9298 on Monday, June 6, 2005 - 11:15 am:

My dd doesn't have a godparent, but *I* was/am (??) a godparent to someone who used to be a best friend. We were best friends in high school (12 yrs. ago), she had a child right after graduation and asked me to the godmother. I accepted, but it's been years since we've really spoken like friends. I see her every once in a while, but that's it. I've often wondered how that worked myself.


I was acutally just thinking the other day:
How many of you have chosen godparents for your children?

By Tink on Monday, June 6, 2005 - 02:17 pm:

My children all have the same "godmother" (we aren't Catholic but have adopted aunts, uncles, or grandparents that take that role) and she is incredibly involved. She sees them several times a month and often drops off little gifts, takes them out to lunch, sends them email. She's wonderful.

My dh is the godfather to a former friend's little boy. Unfortunately, they had a major falling out and he hasn't seen his godson in several years. He regrets not being involved in his life but his godson is young and doesn't remember him at all.

By Bellajoe on Monday, June 6, 2005 - 05:04 pm:

We keep the godparents in the family. My brother and sister are my god parents. My sister and brother in law are my ds's god parents and my brother and sister in law are my dd's god parents. I think we do that so a situation like your's does not happen. So, the answer is yes, we are and will always be on good terms with the Godparents.

By Bea on Monday, June 6, 2005 - 05:34 pm:

Like Patti, I believe that godparents should be family. DH's parents asked friends, and he never knew them, as the friendships were over before he was old enough to know the people. My godparents were an aunt and uncle. I was very close to both growing up, and I'm still close to my aunt who is still alive. My uncle died years ago. My sons have aunts and uncles as godparents.

By Babysitbarb on Tuesday, June 7, 2005 - 08:48 pm:

My godson just graduated from high school on sunday. I have stayed close with him and his father's family because they are also my DH's family but, not so much with his mother. We see her when there has been important things involving the godson but, other than that we don't see her much. She was my best friend for 11 years and than we just kinda drifted apart after she divorced my Dh's cousin and desserted her son. Long story!

By Marcia on Monday, June 13, 2005 - 07:03 pm:

I am the Godmother of my best friend's daughter, as well as 2 nieces and 2 nephews. I am close to all of them. Even if I ever had a falling out with my friend, her daughter and I would remain close.
My Godparents are my parents' best friends and my aunt. My aunt died in the 70's, and the friends are still in my life.
My kids all have my sister and my best friend as Godmothers, and they have my friend's hubby and one of my brothers for Godfathers. It wasn't the same brother each time.

By Paulas on Monday, June 13, 2005 - 07:14 pm:

My son's godparents are my brother and his wife. They have never really been involved in the "church" aspects of his life but then again, he is only 5 and hasn't done anything major since baptism.

My daughter's godparents were good friends of ours. We still exchange christmas cards and they sent her a card when she did her first communion last year but they have moved and now live on the other side of the country so it makes it hard for them to be involved.

My own godparents came to my wedding, I think. They have not had a prominent role in my life.