I have a membership to classmates.com so I browse occasionally so see what my fellow classmates are up to. One of my ex's sisters went to the same high school but graduated a different year. I just noticed that she got married last year and wanted to send her a a quick note to say congrats and give her the best of luck. I didn't talk to her much when my ex and I were dating but when we talked we got along well. I know she'd remember me because their family loved me and I was their sons first love and all. Would it just be too weird to do that? Something like:

Hey ****,
I saw you got married last year and wanted to offer you a late congratulations and best wishes for the years to come. Tell **** (ex) and I said hi and give your family my regards.

Melissa


I was pretty close to his family (like a daughter) so I think it would be weird of me to write her and not say hi to them. Is this corny? Should I just leave it alone? I'm just happy for her because she had a really hard time growing up and we all thought she's never find the right person for her.

By Vicki on Friday, May 27, 2005 - 01:25 pm:

Me personally, I would just let it alone. If you happened to run into her someday or something that is one thing. But it could be looked at like you are trying to contact him through the family or something. I think if you were that close, she would have invited you to the wedding! If I were out of the blue contacted by one of my ex's siblings, I would wonder what was up. LOL Maybe I am to suspicious!!

By Ginny~moderator on Friday, May 27, 2005 - 01:27 pm:

If it were me, I'd leave it at "give your family my regards, but leave the rest for when/if she responds to your initiative.

By Boxzgrl on Friday, May 27, 2005 - 01:30 pm:

Just thought i'd check. In my mind, it is nothing more than a congratulations. But I can see how on her side it may seem like to "trying to contact the ex" type of situation so thats why I asked here first. Definitely don't want that kind of contact with the ex, lol. Oh well.....

By Karen~moderator on Friday, May 27, 2005 - 02:22 pm:

Definitely leave it alone....... it's like opening a can of worms.....

By Missmudd on Friday, May 27, 2005 - 03:50 pm:

I agree leave it alone.

By Marcia on Friday, May 27, 2005 - 10:48 pm:

I guess I'm the odd one out, but I'd say hi for sure. If you were close to the family, what's the harm? That's what classmates.com is all about.

By Christylee on Friday, May 27, 2005 - 11:19 pm:

I'm with Marcia on this one, she joined classmates.com to get in touch with old friends and that's what you'd be doing. It's not like you sought her out to talk to her, you just both have joined the same place to get in touch with old friends/classmates.

By Hol on Saturday, May 28, 2005 - 12:25 am:

I agree with Marcia and Christylee. I see no harm in sending her congratulations. You are obviously happy for her, and you had a good relationship with her and her family. I think that they would be happy to hear from you, too. I'm sure that no one is going to think that you want "him" back.

Life is short. We need to convey our feelings of affection or joy for someone while we can say them and they can hear them. I say go for it.

By Mrsheidi on Saturday, May 28, 2005 - 10:13 am:

As long as your hubby doesn't care...why not?

By Boxzgrl on Saturday, May 28, 2005 - 03:04 pm:

I decided not to, I don't want to cross any potential lines that don't need to be. I'll just give her my congrats if I ever run into her. Thanks anyways.