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Moms View Message Board: General Discussion Archive: Archive May 2005: Please help me get through this
I am having spurts of feeling so emotional all I can do is cry. I know it's because I miss DH and I just had a baby, but I really don't know how to get through this. If I am feeling like this now, I just wonder how it will be tonight when we all go to sleep, I really need some good advice. I remember going through this with my other girls, but it seems worse this time since Will left today and won't be back until Saturday morning. I can be just fine for a few hours then the tears come and I cry for no reason..like I'm doing now. I feel so stupid, I don't know what is wrong with me. I mean I know what is wrong with me, I have these hormones from just having a baby, what I mean to say is I don't know why I am crying.. I even started missing the hospital this morning, wishing I could still be there with all the nurses so I could have someone to talk to. This has to be the worse feeling in the world!
What is *wrong* with you is your hormones trying to readjust, plus you are home with a new baby and your hubby isn't there for support right now. You're feeling blue and lonely and probably a bit overwhelmed.
(((Hugs))) I wish I could hug you in person, Candis.
Oh I so remember those feelings, you are tired sweatheart. Do you have someone who can come and stay with you and help for a few days? I wish I was there to help I know exactly how you feel.
((hugs)) Just keep posting here, we will take care of you
((((Candis))))
Candis, I know how you feel!! I still feel like that at times, but it's getting much better. For the first couple of weeks I thought I was going crazy.
Candis, I can certainly relate to how you are feeling. I went through it after the birth of my younger son almost twenty-four years ago. I hope you have a support system of some kind. I know you and your husband are involved in church. Are there any women at church with whom you are particularly close? If so, consider calling one of them to talk. A lot of us know how you are feeling. And like Michelle says, please give your doctor a call if necessary. I'm praying for you. Feel free to "talk" with us anytime you feel the need. We're here for you.
I felt this same way after each of my births and I did have someone around to help. It's perfectly normal but I'm going to buck the trend and say that after the girls are in bed, have a good cry. Don't try to figure out why, just let it all out.
Thinking about the days following my daughter's birth two and a half years ago still makes me uneasy. I have never been more afraid, and I couldn't figure out why. I felt completely alone even though my husband was home full time. So I can only imagine your feelings right now. I too longed to go back to the hospital, and felt sad that I would no longer be seeing my obgyn every few weeks! I felt completely isolated from the rest of the world, and the worst part is I didn't think the feeling would ever leave.
I felt that way along with bursts of extreme irritability. I went to the Dr. and took an antidepressant to get me through it because I had a two year old and I couldn't deal with a newborn and a terrible two. Don't be ashamed to ask a Dr. for help.
I am so sorry that you are so upset. I wish I lived near you, I would come talk!!! Keep coming here and posting, and if you have anyone nearby, take advantage of any help they might offer.
You guys are so great!!! During naptime today I just cried and cried and I felt so much better than holding it in. DH bought the 9th season of Friends for me this past weekend. He is such a great man! I cannot believe how much better I feel. I know I will have my spurts, but it is great to know I have you all to come to. 1 more day and DH will be home for a couple days. **Keep thinking happy thoughts** tomorrow is a new day (and hopefully a better one) A friend asked me to go to this street fair with her tomorrow in town and I think I am going to go, to get out of the house and get my mind off things. She has really helped me today she just popped up right when I was at my worst. It felt better to talk (and cry) it out. thanks again all of you all!
After my 2nd baby I think I had postpartum depression and didn't realize it. I had 2 kids under 2 and we had only 1 car so I was stuck if dh was working. It was so hard and lonely even when I around people I thought no one knew what I was really experiencing. I think its great that you're getting out! Talking helps too- even if "talking" means typing! Good luck- it sounds like you'll be feeling better soon.
{{{{Hugs}}}}
Hugs! Yes, cry and let it out. Also, try and drink lots of water and take fish oil! Lots of omegas to help elevate your mood! Ith helped me a lot!
I am so sorry your feeling the blues. I hope everything gets back to normal when dh returns. It stinks he had to go away so soon after the birth.
(((HUG))) I wish I was there to hang out with you! Hang in there!
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Thanks for listening & please pray for me!.. 
Yes, hormones are crazy, aren't they? It's not a good feeling to feel out of control like that. Just hang in there. Will will be back the day after tomorrow...that's not too long. I'm not sure what to tell you...try to relax tonight, some hot tea maybe? Some nice worship music? A favorite video? Do you have anyone nearby that you can call on for some company? Get as much rest as you can.(LOL!) Also, I'm sure you know this, but if these feelings get worse or hang on too long, please talk to your doctor. (((more hugs))) and prayers. 