Okay well here is my situation. I had planned an end of the year GS party for my troop of 11. We set the plan and the date together and I sent home notes. We went to bath junkie (25 a girl party special). You make your own bath products, pick scents and colors, etc. Kind of a do it yourself bath and body works. So this was done the 2nd week of may. Party was set from 5-7. Okay a week ago, one mom calls and says okay, I know i need to reregister, I say, just bring it to the party, etc, I again tell her the time and date, yes she will be there. So yesterday I call all my moms and leave reminders. There are only 2 that i do not talk to. Well of course neither of these two show. Well one of them has made very few meetings, and didn't sell any cookies, so I have no guilt there. She hasn't really been a part of our troop in sometime. But this one girl did bust her butt to sell cookies and has made it to every meeting that I reminded her of. WELL, so tonight at 9:20 I get a call from this mom, saying, did you change the time? I thought it was from 7-9. NOPE it was 5-7. So what do I do? On one hand I feel like I can't do something for both of them, one deserves it more, but we set a time and I did all I could do. Second, IF she thought the time was 7-9 they should have showed up at 7 and they would have seen us there, we were there until 7:15. So I have done what I SHOULD do. However I hate penalizing a girl for what her mom did or didn't do. Apparently they don't come home on SAt nights, so she didn't get the message. Hmmm. Honestly the mom screwed up and was trying to blame me, period. BUT this girl is a good scout.

Okay, so here are my choices:
a) just let it be, sometimes you miss out on fun things.
b) get her a gift certificate for this place
c) go talk to the owner about getting one of the "gift bags" and making her stuff, guessing on scents and colors.

If I do either a or b, do i do it for both girls? If not what do I say to the other girl? GS really isn't supposed to work that way, cookie selling is optional, but if no one sold we wouldn't be able to afford to do this.

Anyway...just taking a poll...majority wins! Thanks!

By Vicki on Monday, May 23, 2005 - 06:33 am:

I was GS leader and honestly, we would have done A. If you do this even this time, you will be expected to do it for every event that girls can't/don't come to in the future. You did everything that you should have done to remind people of the event and more. You can't be responsible for all things. The girls (and parents at a young age) need to take their own responsibility.

By Karen~moderator on Monday, May 23, 2005 - 07:29 am:

I'm going with *A* also. You did your part, everything cannot be up to you and you can't control the outcomes. I'd leave it as it is.

By Jann on Monday, May 23, 2005 - 08:30 am:

A.
bummer that the mom messed up, but not your fault.

By Kate on Monday, May 23, 2005 - 09:26 am:

A, absolutely.

By Colette on Monday, May 23, 2005 - 09:51 am:

A - you can't be all things to all people.

By Melanie on Monday, May 23, 2005 - 10:07 am:

I agree with the others. A.

By Kathy on Monday, May 23, 2005 - 10:09 am:

A: Agree that it wasn't your fault.

By Imamommyx4 on Monday, May 23, 2005 - 10:12 am:

I agree A is the right thing to do.

But I'd probably do B for the little girl whose mom screwed up. I'm such a sap. She's worked hard and her mom is the one who screwed up.

By Kaye on Monday, May 23, 2005 - 11:19 am:

Okay, well A it is. Thanks for easing my mind! I do feel sorry for the girl that the mom messed up. BUT the girl is a 5th grader and she has some responsibility too.

Funny though, she was supposed to send a check with her daughter this am and I got a call, the daughter left it at home, she will have to come by after work for sign up for next year. Crazy, crazy!