I am on a role with posting these past two days!!! LOL.

My Mom and Dad are upset because we don't let them watch Rylee at their house. If I want them to babysit, I want them to come here. All of her stuff is here, and her bed too. They have a pool, and I am not confortable with that. They leave the sliding glass door open all the time for the dog's to go in and out as they please.

My parents have never come over to visit and see Rylee. My DH's family is always coming over. My Mom gets upset because she doesn't see Rylee enough. They don't even invite us over to dinner. If I want to eat at there house, I have to call and invite ourselves. I don't think that that is right.

I am sooooo stressed out over so much family drama right now, that I think I may just snap. I let every little thing bother me, and I cannot stand it when people are mad at me, or don't like the way I am doing things. I know that you can't make everyone happy, but I try.

My Mom has come over once to watch Rylee, and wasn't happy about it. She wanted Rylee to be dropped off at her house, and then she would bring her over to my house around bed time. I told her that we weren't confortable with anyone driving her around yet. This was is October.

Is there a good way of saying to her that I want her here, instead of there?

By Emily7 on Friday, April 22, 2005 - 11:56 am:

Just come out & say it. We have our house toddler friendly, her stuff is here & this is where we would prefer you watch her.
I agree with you I would be nervous about the pool unless they have a locked gate around it.

By Ginny~moderator on Friday, April 22, 2005 - 01:38 pm:

I would never let a child under about 12 or 13 (and with strong swimming skills) be in a house with a pool, and that the doors are kept open so much only reinforces that. Never mind whether the pool has a locked gate - people who keep doors open for the convenience of dogs are just as likely to let the pool door be unlocked "for convenience".

That they don't visit is distressing, I'm sure. But, if you want to, you could visit them with Rylee, as long as you are there for the whole visit. Sounds like a difficult relationship, and you have my sympathy and hugs.

By Ginny~moderator on Friday, April 22, 2005 - 01:40 pm:

BTW, I am a smoker (yes, yes, I know), and I fully expect if I am ever blessed with grandchildren I will go to their house and they won't come to mine because of the smoking. (My dil's house is a no-smoking zone.) And I understand and can live with that comfortably.

By Jelygu on Friday, April 22, 2005 - 04:25 pm:

I know how you feel. My dad and stepmom are constantly complaining about not seeing Christopher, but they don't make any effort to come over or invite us over. I don't like him to go over there because they smoke inside and it smells nasty. I don't even like to visit. (they offered to not smoke while he is there, but it is still all over EVERYTHING)

My mom and stepdad however make special trips to see him all the time, and if they are in the neighborhood will stop by.

I think you should just tell them, like Emily said. It is your decision. Maybe you and Rylee could visit, but I wouldn't let Christopher run around with a pool in the yard either.