and, maybe it's just me that thinks this is weird.

Some background...this friend of mine has been losing friends lately because of her selfishness. She wants to do things her way, on her time, etc. She even was going to do partylite but told her friend/partylite mentor that she wasn't going to do it because she didn't want some of the money to go to her. I can understand that you want to make more money, but you don't tell that to a friend.

Speed up to my conversation with her last night...
She told me that she was due on March 21st but she decided to induce her baby because if he were born any later it would be too close to HER birthday!
(Keep in mind that my DS was a week overdue and was going to have be induced...on my birthday. I was ECSTATIC that we could possibly SHARE the same birthday!) I was a little angry with her. I know I shouldn't be, but it is such a theme with her. I just found it strange that she could only think of herself. I can't wait until her mommyhood is in full force and she'll realize that her life is not about her now...we hope.

By Kaye on Wednesday, April 20, 2005 - 09:48 am:

I had two kids due on the same day (4 years apart). I didn't want them to be born on the same day. I didn't ask to be induced but was happy that it worked out that way. Some people, even parents, are more self centered than others. Really what your friend needs to learn is some tact, thinking those things is really different than saying them! Also her doc would not induce just because of the birthday deal, he wouldn't want to put the baby at risk.

On a side note, my cousin has 3 kids, the first two were born on the 19th, she requested for an induction with the last one on the 19th as well. The doc granted it, but there were a lot of issues, the week before we lost our grandfather and thanksgiving was the next week, it was just easier to have the baby.

By Kay on Wednesday, April 20, 2005 - 11:52 am:

I assume this is your friend's first baby? If so, wow - real life is going to smack her right in the face! LOL

By Clarabel on Wednesday, April 20, 2005 - 12:26 pm:

Don't get me started..there was an article in Parents' mag lately about healthy no-risk women opting for a c-sect so they can put it on the calendar and it won't interfere with their corporate business trip or whatever.
This has actually been fashionable in Europe for some time and the doctors seem to advocate it.
I don't know if it's selfishness, ignorance or a little of both, maybe a complete lack of faith.
What gets me is that these medical interventions, when unnecessary can be dangerous to mother and baby. It's just a different kind of thinking.
I am a "natural" so I have my way too, I guess, and I shouldn't judge .But I do worry about the children being born into this society where a mother would devalue their existence and her own in such a way.

By Dawnk777 on Wednesday, April 20, 2005 - 02:28 pm:

I had 2 c-sections due to circumstances beyond my control. I wouldn't have CHOSE to have a c-section and tried not to have the second one, but it didn't work out that way.

By Missmudd on Wednesday, April 20, 2005 - 03:06 pm:

I cant imagine actually requesting a c-section. I delievered all vaginally, some w/, some w/out medication and I was up and around w/in hours of my giving birth. After a c-section that really isnt in the case, at least for everyone that I know who has had to have one.

As far as the inducing to make for scheduling, yep definately in for a suprise when little darling totally blows all your well laid plans.

By Rayelle on Wednesday, April 20, 2005 - 03:56 pm:

My sister had a scheduled c-section because she found a doctor that would agree to a c-section before she got pregnant. She said there was no way she was going to go through the "undignified" process of giving birth vaginally , being checked, etc. She also had the doc agree to let her have her underwear on during the surgery, also to preserve her "dignity". She didn't appreciate my crack that she took her underwear off to get pregnant right?(lol) It irritated me because what makes her so much better than every other woman on the planet? I was induced all three times , per doctor's orders. I don't understand her at all. I read the same article too about scheduled births. I think its good sometimes when things aren't under your control.

By Amecmom on Wednesday, April 20, 2005 - 04:24 pm:

Goodness, Rayelle, I don't think she's "better" than any other woman on the planet. Don't be irritated. Instead, feel sorry for her that she has some MAJOR hang up. BTW wasn't she checked during her ob visits?

I was induced with my first and let nature take its course with the second. I wish I'd been more firm and not allowed them to induce the first time. The second birth was so much easier!
Ame

By Trina~moderator on Wednesday, April 20, 2005 - 04:29 pm:

Honestly, I'm surprised there are doctors who agree to this. I *know* there are, but it baffles me. All my OB/GYNs were of the philosophy that it's best to wait until full term, when the BABY is good and ready and vaginally if at all possible. That said, both my kids were born via c-section. DS after 45+ hrs. labor and the discovery of my heart-shaped pelvis. DD was supposed to be a scheduled c-section but my water broke 5 days prior to the scheduled date.

Rayelle, I don't understand your sister's thinking either. LOL!

By Mrsheidi on Wednesday, April 20, 2005 - 05:04 pm:

Rayelle, that cracked me up...woah!
Also, I just wanted to add that she didn't schedule a C-section but just to be induced. She DID have him vaginally. She happened to be 1 day overdue but she said that she didn't want to wait any longer because it would have been too close to her birthday. That was her only reasoning. It's STILL ridiculous as far as I'm concerned.

She also said to my other friend (one that had a difficult C section) that "You wouldn't understand the PAIN because you had a C section" (she had an epidural and swore up and down when she was preggers that she would go natural) and she whined on and on about the pain she had afterwards. Boo hoo...I couldn't even walk for 2 weeks after I had a C section.
She told me last night that she can't get a thing done because her DS only sleeps 45 min at a time...aaahhhh, she will learn.

By Reds9298 on Wednesday, April 20, 2005 - 06:02 pm:

I have also seen some articles about women scheduling c-sections based on their professional calendar. I had a c-section and I can't imagine a)wanting to do it willingly (!) and b)'working in' the birth of your child to a "schedule". This seems crazy to me.
It doesn't surprise me though...I know several people who appear that nothing in life has changed since the birth of their child(ren). 6 weeks off, full-time work, high mortgages, 2 nice cars, and plenty of vacations. It seems nothing has changed for these people! I don't get it and wonder why people who don't want their lives to change even have a child. It is for sure the most life-changing event in EVERY way as we all know.
Heidi- your friend is in for a rude-awakening!!! I could have cared less about my birthday this year, and it was the big 30. As a matter of fact, there are lots of things I could care less about anymore!!!

By Palmbchprincess on Wednesday, April 20, 2005 - 06:51 pm:

I wouldn't schedule a c-section because of a particular event, but I don't plan on having a VBAC with my next child. I had a c-section with the twins because Shane was breech (he was twin A and Maddie was transverse, not a good vaginal delivery situation). I was up and walking within hours of birth, and healed wonderfully, though I know this isn't always the case. As far as your friend, Heidi... that is selfish, and she really is in for a rude awakening. Honestly, I was very selfish before getting pregnant, and sometimes I'm in awe of how motherhood changes people. Of course, not everyone "grows up" after having a child, and it is unfortunate. Oh, and talk about interesting birthdays... the kids are 3 June, Nate is 11 June, and father's day is shortly after. That whole month is crazy!!