Don't get me wrong my dh is great. For the last year, every couple of months he annoys the hell out of me for no reason. I'm mad he seems too busy to be with me but when he's with me he gets on my nerves. I usually look forward to him coming home, right now I don't care, I have stuff to do. We have always had great sex life and now I almost never want to. We've talked about it when I've felt like this before. It usually makes him feel bad which I don't want and things seem better and then I get like this again. I don't see pattern of behavior. I thought it might be stress but I'm not stressed now. I thought it might be birth control pills but that wouldn't come and go. I don't crave any kind of affection right now, hugs or anything. I just want to be left alone. He didn't do anything wrong. We've been together for 8 years. He treats me great. Has this happened to you? What is wrong with me?

By Anonymous on Thursday, April 14, 2005 - 02:09 pm:

I could have written your post myself! We haven't been together as long, but we're both under a lot of extra stress right now, and no matter what I'm cranky and irritated with him. I anxiously await his days off, but once he's here I just want to be alone! I really have no solution or advice, I just wanted you to know you aren't alone.

By Anonymous on Thursday, April 14, 2005 - 02:32 pm:

Okay, I have been married a long, long time and I couldn't have written this too.

You aren't alone. It feels good to say it.

By Lorebunde on Thursday, April 14, 2005 - 02:46 pm:

I could of written that too! I am going through that right now. With me, I believe it is pms time, though not every month. He is just getting on my nerves, I feel like I want to be alone and he's always nearby. I know that sounds mean but..... I am the type that needs alone time and he is a talker, which bugs me sometimes.

By Emily7 on Thursday, April 14, 2005 - 03:43 pm:

I think that it is just part of marriage. I go through it at times & my husband does too. It doesn't mean that we don't love each other, it just means that at time we get on each others nerves. As long as we find each other in the end, that is all that matters.

By Cocoabutter on Thursday, April 14, 2005 - 03:57 pm:

WHat kind of birth control are you on?

Some pills contain varying amounts of hormone to mimmick the naturally varying levels of the month, and others contain a steady amount of hormone throughout the month. Are your 21 pills all the same color, or are they 3 different colors?

I have the same problem. I have a bad cold and I am tired, but I also have my period, and I am so irritable I want to explode. It seems that things that normally wouldn't set me off I am getting totally ticked off about and am tired of tolerating.

I have been married 15 years, and normally I get along well with dh. I think I am just being hypersensitive, and I don't know how to control my feelings, but I am trying to control my actions. I express my displeasure at something he or ds says or does, and then I drop it. So far, we haven't had any really big fights.

By Rayanne on Thursday, April 14, 2005 - 04:26 pm:

I got off of Birth Control because that is what they did to me. I am a very affectionate person, nd am very touchy feely, but when I was on Birth Control after I had Rylee, I just wanted to be left alone. Now, look out...

By Missmudd on Thursday, April 14, 2005 - 11:44 pm:

I really wish they would say loud and clear that to some women (I raise my hand) BC is really just poison.

When I was much younger I complained to an gyn that I was having problems w/ depression and libido, could it be the BC? She said no, she had never seen it in her practice. Being young and stupid I believed her and went down a 10 year track of BC and antidepressants which both killed off my sex drive and with the injectable bc form actually made me suicidal. Finally no longer pregnant or on BC or taking meds I realized that I am actually a well rounded sane individual.

I dont know if this is your problem honestly, but I think maybe using a different form of BC for about 6 months should be considered, or at least a visit to your doc and trying a different prescription.

And it could just be that you are going through a normal cranky period in your relationship. If you think of a relationship w/ one of your blood family, sometimes you get along great, sometimes they drive you nuts.

By Dawnk777 on Friday, April 15, 2005 - 01:29 am:

I tried the pill for about 3 months, when I was first married. I hated it! I didn't get a period the whole 3 months. I felt nauseous all the time and just weird. DH liked that my moods were more on an even keel, but I didn't like how I felt. I supposed we could have messed around to try to find a better formula, but by the end of 3 months, I was done and never took them again!

By Anonymous on Friday, April 15, 2005 - 07:19 am:

I take ortho-tricyclen low dose. Depo-provera shots made me crazy depressed, I thought that was life with two kids since i went on it after my second chld, but it was the shots. I was on regular ortho-tricyclen before my 3rd and it was fine. I usually take pills continuously to not get a period but when I quit taking them to get my period (about every other month) those couple of days before I get it are good. But it's not like this all the time and there's no pattern to it. I talked with dh yesterday night and everything is good again. I need reassurance from him I didn't used to need before. I go to the doc next month so I will see if changing pills is soemthing to try.Thanks so much for helping me feel normal!!!

By Dana on Friday, April 15, 2005 - 07:30 am:

"tricyclen" tells you right there that the doses change giving you a 3 cycle dosage. It very well could be the pills. It is suppose to mimic your natural cycle more this way.

I'm unable to take BC pills because of the way it makes me feel as well. I quite a long time ago.

And, even without the pills, I still go thru those mood swings w/ DH. And the kids too. Sometimes more than others and usually not too often. But when I do, it is extreme.

Good luck to you, and a switch in pills may help.

By Amecmom on Friday, April 15, 2005 - 07:39 pm:

I had the same problem on the Ortho Low and on the Lo Overal. See if you can switch. The regular Ortho tricyclen seem to work just fine for me. Hope you find your answer.
Ame