Well we are on day 2 of Brendan spending the night with Chuck because I have to be accross town before his daycare even opens and it's going to be alright. I pick him up in the afternoon and spend a couple of hours with him and we have dinner, around 7:00-7:30 I take him to Chuck's new place and he does the bath/bedtime routine and takes him to school in the morning. ( this is only 3 days a week and until I graduate )Yesterday was hard but Brendan handled it really well and actually got excited over "daddy's new house" (that hurt a little bit but he's four...) and seeing that he is going to be okay is starting to make things easier.

I'm starting to get into a routine around here, look for a job (I graduate in June), and try and loose some weight so I feel better about myself. I'm trying really hard to feel like "Christy" again and you know what there are times that I'm almost there. Amazing...

This has/is very hard and I'm sure there are going to be hard days ahead but I'm starting to see this as the thing that we all needed to be happy.

Anyways, I just thought I'd update you all on how we (I) are doing. Thanks again for all your support last week when I was such a basketcase.

Christy

By Emily7 on Tuesday, April 12, 2005 - 11:51 pm:

I knew you would be okay.

By Trina~moderator on Wednesday, April 13, 2005 - 06:53 am:

((((Christy)))) We're here for you. Hang in there.

By Kernkate on Wednesday, April 13, 2005 - 07:59 am:

{{{Christy}}} Hang in there! And think positive...things can only get better
Glad to hear that Brendan is doing well.

By Kateg on Wednesday, April 13, 2005 - 08:29 am:

{{{Christy}}} You're gonna make it. It sounds like you are making progress one step at a time. One of these days, you'll look back and see how much you've accomplished & how far you've come....I did. Hang in there.

By Dana on Wednesday, April 13, 2005 - 08:47 am:

You've got the right outlook. hang in there.

By Conni on Wednesday, April 13, 2005 - 09:12 am:

Christy,

I have been divorced with small children before. Brendan is 4 right? Bradley was 4 when his Dad and I divorced. He is 11 now and doesnt remember when his Dad and I were married. It is kind of sad. But at the same time-- I want you to know that Brendan will be OK!!!!!! The key is that you and Dad stay civil, even friendly if possible, and his Dad needs to make every effort to remain a constant part of his life. Luckily, my ex and I live 30 min from each other and his work is 15 min from our house. So its been easy for him to remain a major part of their lives. Thats great for the boys and me at times. But then there are times when I wish I didnt have to see him all the time-- because he seriously gets on my nerves!!! LOL I am so glad we arent married anymore. argh

I remember the first few months after my seperation and then divorce. The first couple of weeks were the hardest. But I quickly adjusted, focused on my boys, and work, and then of course eventually met someone new that actually *wants* to be married to me and have a family and do family things...


Good luck with your new life!!! You will be amazed at how strong you are and what you can handle. You may never be the *old* Christy again. But thats because you are much different now, much wiser. You may feel like an all NEW Christy. Look out world here she comes!

By Kay on Wednesday, April 13, 2005 - 01:37 pm:

Christy, kids are extremely resilient - and if you go about life as if it's as normal as possible (often a struggle), then they'll accept it as such. They take their cues from us (scary thought!)

Look forward to the 'new' Christy - she's fantastic, I'm positive of that! ('old' Christy was great, but each day passes for a reason - to give us another day's experience, and another chance to grow into who we want to be)

By Jelygu on Wednesday, April 13, 2005 - 06:28 pm:

(((HUGS))) Sounds like you are handling things very well. Good luck, I hope things continue to improve. And I agree with Conni, you may never be the old Christy, but the new and improved version!

By Cocoabutter on Wednesday, April 13, 2005 - 07:18 pm:

Hang in there, friend!

By Colette on Wednesday, April 13, 2005 - 07:36 pm:

(((Christy))) You are going to be fine. We are all here for you.