I hate 2005
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I hate 2005
As if there isn't/hasn't been enough going on this year with my mom's death, Jeff's accident in his new vehicle, my inlaws' illnesses..... Jen was in an accident on the interstate yesterday morning on the way to school, she ended up spinning around facing the oncoming traffic and her car is undrivable. She wasn't seriously injured, but she *is* hurt - more injuries to her back and neck. BUT she now has the flu and has been up vomiting all night, and has a temp of 103, and loads of congestion and that awful *flu* headache you get with the flu. It's hard to differentiate the body aches from that of the illness or that of the accident at this point.
My sisters are in to help me clear out my mom's apartment - this is the last weekend before we have to turn in the keys - and now this.
I am so tired of people telling me *you are never given more than you can handle*. This is BS - I cannot take any more this year, and I'm here to shout it so everyone hears it. 
I thought on January 1, I would hate 2005 JUST because I turn 50 this year. Now that is laughable - I would gladly settle for becoming AARP qualified if I didn't have all this other stuff to deal with.
(((((karen))))
(((((Karen))))). You have been given more than anyone should have to handle-so go ahead and shout! I hope Jen is feeling better soon.
{{{{{Karen}}}}} Vent away anytime. Sounds like you more than deserve to. I hope Jen's feeling better soon. More hugs.
(((HUGS))) I hope things look better for everyone soon. You are a very strong woman.
Hugs to you, Karen. I can't believe all of this is happening and yet you still made me laugh about that AARP statement...what an amazing woman you are. I hope things get better... {{Karen}}
{{{Karen}}} I am so sorry you are having such a difficult year. Hang in there.
{{{Karen}}}
Oh Karen you have been through so much. And its been so stressful. And I can say I know how you feel. As I said in a post the other day its all catching up with me now! And it stinks. Its a tough weekend for you doing your moms apartment
I hope Jen is feeling better.
Take a little time for yourself, maybe a nice walk or a trip to the mall just to walk around and clear your mind a bit.
Thinking of you!
Oh Karen you have been through so much. And its been so stressful. And I can say I know how you feel. As I said in a post the other day its all catching up with me now! And it stinks. Its a tough weekend for you doing your moms apartment
I hope Jen is feeling better.
Take a little time for yourself, maybe a nice walk or a trip to the mall just to walk around and clear your mind a bit.
Thinking of you!
You need LOTS of warm fuzzy...
Sorry maybe you can delete the first one??? I messed up!!
I am so sorry sweetie. Vent all you want. You have had a very rough and tough year so far. I hope that things get better.
{{{Karen}}}
I know what you mean about that saying... I cringe whenever I hear it, too. It makes me want to yell, "Then why am I supposedly so strong?!"
It just never seems to let up sometimes, doesn't it. We are here for you, Sweetie! 
((((hugs))))
{{{Karen}}} lots of e-hugs to you. I'm sorry you are having such a rough year. Hang in there!
I'm so sorry! I hope your daughter will be okay. (And I agree with you about the saying...I have never liked it...)
I sure hope you get a break soon.
Nicki
{{{Karen}}} No one should have to deal with everything you've been handed in one year, let alone three months! I hope you've reached your quota for the year and that everything else in 2005 is smooth sailing (relatively speaking!). Vent away anytime!
Hi.
I am sorry you have had such a bad year. I had a year like that.
In 12/2000 my Uncle was diagnosed with cancer. I adored him.
In 4/2001 My Mother in Law was diagnosed with cancer. She was also one of my favorite relatives.
In 6/2001 My Uncle went to live in Heaven.
In 7/2001 My Mother in Law went to live in Heaven.
In 8/2001 My Father Girlfriend went to live in Heaven.
My Father's Girlfriend left everything (her home, insurance) all of it to my Father....THEN
9/11/2001 happened. And although I had no family members involved, it hit me hard because I was already grieving so much.....
Then we BARELY got through the holidays and......
1/20/2002 My Father died of a heart attack, leaving no will and with his girlfriend's estate recently bequeathed to him.....
So, I helped my Aunt, who I am very close to, settle my Uncle's estate, AND I supported my husband while we settled his Mother's estate....
THEN my family had to deal with my Father's estate after he died without a will and recently inhereting all of his girlfriend's estate....
It was a REAL mess and a very hard year.
I feel for you.
The only thing that helps is time. Now, I still look back on that year and shudder. I have photographs and family events where I am in the photo but I don't remember being there. It was an awful time. But God carried me through it and He will carry you through yours.
And yes, sometimes Life does give us more than we can handle. I just thought it might help to know that you are not alone in having a year when it just feels like everything is falling apart.
I guess that is my message in this post: it happened to me, too and it was a very dark year, but God carried me through it and He will carry you, too.
MM
I hope things start looking better for you real soon. ((((hugs))))
Reading Meltonmom's post made me think of a revision of that statement. How about this: God will never give you more than you and He can handle together.
Because yes, we are often given more than we can handle. Everyone knows that. You are in my prayers.
Hang in there, things are bound to get better soon!
(((KAREN)))
Karen, there's nothing I can say to make things better, except that this will all pass and you will be stronger for it, even though it seems like BS now. I'll continue to keep you in my prayers.
BTW, did you break any mirrors? Side step some black cats? Walk under a ladder?
Your luck is bound to change.
Ame
(((hugs))) Karen!
Huge {{{HUGS}}}, Karen!! I also can't stand it when people say you don't get more than you can handle!! Blah!! You've had a very difficult time of it lately and it just plain stinks!! Lots of prayers for you and here's some more {{{HUGS}}}. I hope things start getting better for you very soon.
Oh, you poor thing! Many hugs. I really like what MM said about it was too much for her to handle it but God got her thru it. Prayers for you and your strength to hold on.
Tell Jen I hope she feels better soon, too.
Karen, sometimes all you can do is vent, because none of us has the power to fix it. We can offer a sympathetic ear and broad shoulders though. I wish I could make it all go away...but know that I understand and send hugs and good wishes.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! I really needed that vent. Meltonmom, 2001 was horrible for you, and I can totally relate!
Yesterday was exhausting, emotionally and physically. I dropped a heavy box on my leg and cut and bruised it all the way down, and trying to catch it, I scraped up both arms. And I pulled a muscle in my back helping my cousin carry some furniture out. The reason I mention that is because we have been laughing at what I now look like with all the boo-boos I have.
That part of it will be over today, which will be a relief in some ways, and in others not.
Jen's still sick, but her fever is not as high. She's feeling lousy and not getting out of bed. She asked for grits last night, so I made her some. I'm more worried about keeping her hydrated.
The day was not without more problems though - when I left yesterday, the malfunction light came on my car again. I just spent $700 in February on a repair, and I'm afraid this is the same thing, or something related. I drove to my mechanic's shop but they were closed since it was Good Friday. I *think* it's OK to drive the car for a few days, but I'm nervous about doing so - but I don't have a choice right now.
We are heading to the bank to take care of some business of my mom's, then back to her apartment where oldest DS is coming again to take the washer and dryer, etc. We called a charitable organization locally and they are picking up everything else today also. We are planning a girls night out tonight, and then tomorrow, we are going with my uncle to scatter my mom's ashes.
THAT will make everything final, and I'm not sure how it's going to affect me.
I *still* hate 2005! LOL
Well, the silly image couldn't be sized down - anyway, many {{{{{{hugs}}}}}} and prayers to you!
I'm so sorry, Karen.
Karen, I am not a religious person, but it gave me chills to hear you are spreading your mom's ashes on Easter, that has significance in it I'm sure of that. I am a motherless daughter as well, and all I can say to that is still after 5 years it just plain sucks, you learn to deal, but each time you "feel the truth" of it it brings you to your knees. But time does offer some relief. One thing as you clean out your moms' stuff, find something that she touched everyday and use it, It may sound odd, but I kept my moms' blush brush, I remember when she bought it in 1985, she used it everyday, now I do too, it's a little something tangible that no one really knows about but it makes me happy every morning
As far as the other stuff goes, I'm with you it's BS My advice would be to get quiet and listen to what the inner Karen is telling you to do, you always give such great advice to everyone on this board, I'm sure if you offered yourself that Karen, you'd see some light at the end of the tunnel.
I'm so sorry to see you had another bummer day. That sounds very painful. Prayers sent to you for good things to help you thru.
Kym, thank you for the compliment.
There is *sort* of a significance to our doing this today. My grandfather (my mom's father) was once a preacher. We have never been a particularly religious family, but my mom had some seriously strong beliefs, and initially, this just happened to be the weekend we had to do this. Then my sister pointed out the *ashes to ashes, dust to dust* thing, and it just felt fitting to us all.
And, she died on Mardi Gras, the day before Ash Wednesday, and it makes us feel better to know she was *finally* put to rest today.
I've kept some pretty strange stuff that was mom's too.
She had a lot of sterling silver serving pieces, etc., and though I never set formal tables, and swore I would NEVER have sterling pieces that I had to polish, I kept a lot of it, just because it was hers. We had it all in boxes at my house, and I have gone back to them several times and taken out a few more pieces I want to keep, especially her teapot service. It is beautiful!
I know I don't need to say a word.. Big hugs... And always here...... Take care of Karen...
Karen, I hope you can starting feeling peace now, and especially calm
Deep Breath in................................
Deep Breath out...............................
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