Can I ask a serious personal question?


When you feel hurt by your husband and your feelings are not validated can you just turn off your feelings and have sex....even if its been a while because the situation hasn't been dealt with)?


I know Ican't be the only woman who feels this way. Actually I think this is very normal for woman, what do you think?

By Eve on Tuesday, March 8, 2005 - 09:14 am:

Nope, not I! Things have to be going smoothly in other areas for me to be intimate.

By Mrsheidi on Tuesday, March 8, 2005 - 09:17 am:

No, and I'd be surprised if DH would even think about it if he knew I were upset.

By Sue3 on Tuesday, March 8, 2005 - 09:21 am:

Add me to the no list.Sex would be the furthest thing from my mind.
Making up is alway`s nice though

By Juli4 on Tuesday, March 8, 2005 - 09:28 am:

make up sex is great and fun, but my dh would never expect me to have sex if something wasn't right. Although with a little charm and conversation I could easily be talked into it.

By Palmbchprincess on Tuesday, March 8, 2005 - 09:52 am:

Hurt feelings/unresolved issues = no sex here. Make up sex is good, but women are such emotioal creatures that any residual hurt feelings can kill the mood.

By Rayanne on Tuesday, March 8, 2005 - 09:53 am:

Another one her for no. DH and I never go to bed angry though. We try to atleast settle the argument the best way possible before we go to bed. Make up sex is always yummy though.

By Karen~moderator on Tuesday, March 8, 2005 - 09:56 am:

Add me to the *NO* section too.........

By Reds9298 on Tuesday, March 8, 2005 - 10:23 am:

No for me, too. If something hasn't been resolved, then I still feel that and can't feel close to him emotionally. Definitely have to work it out, whatever it is, before the sex life resumes. I think guys are generally different though...I hate to say it.

By Kateg on Tuesday, March 8, 2005 - 10:29 am:

I'm on the no list, too. If something is wrong then it has to be worked out...yep, make up sex is definitely yummy!

By Jackie on Tuesday, March 8, 2005 - 10:35 am:

Im in the no list as well. If Im upset or angry about something sex is the furthest thing from my mind.
I had a friend once who no matter how many arguements she got in with her husband, and no matter how mad she was, she would still have sex.I couldnt imagine that, but I know there are some out there who do.

By Kernkate on Tuesday, March 8, 2005 - 10:39 am:

No list here to

By My2cuties on Tuesday, March 8, 2005 - 10:55 am:

No way, neither Dh or I would ever have sex if we were mad. Everything has to be going good before we can get in the groove. If I am mad at him (or the other way around), sex is the furthest thing from my mind!

By Trina~moderator on Tuesday, March 8, 2005 - 11:51 am:

No. I think it's safe to say this is common for women! LOL!

By Jayne2 on Tuesday, March 8, 2005 - 12:20 pm:

Thanks girls, just wanted to prove to dh that it wasn't just me...but that woman need to be emotionally connected before they can be intimate.

By Tink on Tuesday, March 8, 2005 - 01:40 pm:

I can't, either and DH doesn't expect me to, but he says he wishes I could. To him, it means that I love him in spite of being angry with him.

By Breann on Tuesday, March 8, 2005 - 02:12 pm:

I agree with Eve! Everything has to be running smoothly

By Insaneusmcwife on Wednesday, March 9, 2005 - 10:10 am:

I'm on the NO side.

By Andi on Wednesday, March 9, 2005 - 10:35 am:

No here as well.

By Angellew on Wednesday, March 9, 2005 - 01:08 pm:

It's really all I can do not to suffocate him while he sleeps, let alone have sex!!! (**kidding**), but, add me to the NO column!!!

By Imamommyx4 on Wednesday, March 9, 2005 - 05:27 pm:

No! Until my feelings have been validated (doesn't have to agree just understand they are different from his) and/or we've made up, I just can't.
And sometimes it takes me a while after we have made up to feel like it.