I have been thinking alot about myself lately. And I have figured out that I dont have a romantic bone in my body. I am always tired and feel like I just barely make it thru my day remembering everything for my family. Then when night time comes all I can think about is hitting the pillow and passing out from sheer exhaustion. I tried to make my dh a card yesterday and couldnt think of ONE thing to say on it. I couldnt write a poem or a romantic, sentimental card for him if my life depended on it. I am no good with words AND I waited until Valentines Day to even think about doing something like this for him. LOL

Am I the only one who is this way?? Everytime I try to be romantic it seems like it just flops.

Is there a book I should read?

By Tunnia on Tuesday, February 15, 2005 - 09:50 am:

Wow, I have complained to my dh recently about HIM not being romantic, but I have never thought about whether I am romantic or not! I used to try to be, but now that I think about it, I guess I haven't even really tried for a long time. Thank you for bring it to my attention that this is an area that I need to work on as much as I seem to think my dh does.

In answer to your question - No, I don't think you're the only one.

By Jackie on Tuesday, February 15, 2005 - 11:38 am:

You know I dont think Im romantic either. Well its like I have all these "ideas" swimming around in my head, but I never put them into play..So if you asked my husband he would say Im not romantic LOL

By Breann on Tuesday, February 15, 2005 - 11:51 am:

I am not romantic either. My dh is though. I never really have been.

By Boxzgrl on Tuesday, February 15, 2005 - 12:05 pm:

I'm not but DH is VERY romantic. Kinda makes *me* look bad sometimes!

By Melanie on Tuesday, February 15, 2005 - 12:28 pm:

Nope, I am definitely not romantic.

By Yjja123 on Tuesday, February 15, 2005 - 01:23 pm:

YES without a doubt. I love planning out wild fun romantic things for my hubby. I always benefit from the effort not to mention how happy it makes him.

By Dawnk777 on Tuesday, February 15, 2005 - 03:05 pm:

Nope and neither is hubby! So, we are good for each other. No expectations! LOL!

By Alberobello on Tuesday, February 15, 2005 - 05:54 pm:

Same here Dawn! We are so non-romantic that i even said: please don't buy me a card or flowers and he said the same. And because he has so much work these days we agreed we 'll celebrate (we still have to celebrate our anniversary since January)in a few weeks. I don't mind at all. It is not important for me that he brings flowers or write me letters. But i do love to go out to dinner or for a drink, just the two of us. Or putting ds to bed and staying late talking to him. And we have been blessed with grandparents that take my son for two weeks and then we can enjoy and do all the things we can't do when ds is around! I mean i'm not against Valentine's Day, if we have time and the money we might do something fun but (and it will sound like a cliche) we don't have to wait until 14th of February to do it. For us when it comes, it comes naturally. I don't think there are any books, and if there are they are probably very silly... so don't worry darling, and enjoy your husband the rest of the year!

By Bea on Tuesday, February 15, 2005 - 07:54 pm:

It all depends on what you call romantic. I'm not the sexy vixen romantic type. I don't meet DH at the door in a provocative negligee, nor do I leave a trail of rose pedals to our perfumed sheeted bed. I bought him a Penn State shirt because I noticed his old one was worn around the collar, and he's a proud Penn Stater. I bought him a box of sugar free Russell Stove candy, because he a mildly diabetic candy lover. I bought a pink, heart-shaped, mylar balloon that said I love you, because they are fun, and I fixed his favorite meat loaf for dinner. After 37 years that's how I say I love you.

By Hdelfuego on Wednesday, February 16, 2005 - 08:09 am:

I can be. This is really eye-opening. I always want my dh to be more romantic, but now I see I need to also. It's kind of hard to be romantic bc we don't have anyone and I mean anyone to leave my 17 mth old with. By the time we put her to bed we're exhausted. I'm going to really try harder now though. Thanks!

By Bellajoe on Wednesday, February 16, 2005 - 09:43 am:

LOL, Bea, we had meatloaf for dinner on Valentine's day too.

NO , I am not at all romantic. You can just read Conni's post and that is me too. Once in a while my dh is romantic.

And by romanic i don't mean the rose petals on the bed sheet thing. I just mean saying romantic things, candle lit dinners, that kind of thing. I would find it romantic if he did the laundry or cleaned the house or made dinner!!!!!!!!!!!

By Dawnk777 on Wednesday, February 16, 2005 - 09:58 am:

One of my email friends was going to be separated from her husband on valentine's day.

She sent him back with 2 mini bottles of wine, a cinnamon candle and Dove dark chocolates--told him to fill a tub with hot water, light the candle and pour himself the wine and I would do the same and then we would share the same while on the phone (and in our tubs)--it was one unique way to spend out Anniversary while still 300 miles apart.

I just would never think of something like this. We have never had a rosepetal path to a perfumed bed. LOL! It just would never occur to me! I really didn't want anything and neither did he. Besides, hubby doesn't do well with perfume in the first place. It usually makes him sneeze!

By Yjja123 on Wednesday, February 16, 2005 - 11:11 am:

I have found the more romantic I am ---the more romantic my hubby is. He says I inspire him.
He has done a few great things but I probably do the most. It works out great as it is always for us both anyway. I do not work the hours he does so I have a bit more time to plan things.

By Missbookworm on Thursday, February 24, 2005 - 12:38 pm:

I wouldn't say that we're overly romantic...but I suppose I'm just not the lingerie wearing (sometimes I do but it never stays on long anyway lol) I found my boyfriend likes my white men shirts..(buttons up the front with my little regular undies underneath) ok so they're red and black and a little lacy but nothing I wouldn't normally wear to make ME feel good. we'll have dinner in the living room after the kids are in bed and just put a blanket down and light candles with all the other lights off. we don't as a rule do cards and flowers..(never had him buy me flowers) but we go out for dinner or to a pub we like and just spend time together. we're only dating still so I call him every morning at work..and he calls me every nite if he's not coming over so even if we're physically not together we're "together" it's kinda nice we catch up on our day and then say goodnite. We go away camping alot every summer and I get taken on fishing trips that are usually just him off on his own. I think romance on a daily basis can be the little things...laying your head in his lap while you read a book...or layin in bed talking for a while or even on the couch..cuddling up to watch a movie (even if you fall asleep on the couch together). I can't say I miss the flowers and such my ex husband used to do because I find that everything I do with my b/f now means soooo much more than sporadic flowers and the such..because we show each other everyday in little ways that we love each other.

lol sorry if this ended up long...

By Reds9298 on Thursday, February 24, 2005 - 01:48 pm:

I completely agree with Missbookworm. I'm a big romantic in the sense of all of those things. Buying things isn't romance to me...it's the doing things together.DH and I spend a lot of time together and most of the time it's at home and not anywhere else - especially now that we have an 8mth. old. We're homebodies though - romance is being together I think. (And I'm defintiely the neglige type - you should my closet!) But my dh buys me lots of things, too, which is very romantic I think!

By Reds9298 on Thursday, February 24, 2005 - 02:17 pm:

Buys me lots of lingerie I mean!!

By Frasersmama on Thursday, February 24, 2005 - 05:12 pm:

My DH is extremely romantic, but not in a traditional way. He is just very thoughtful and will remember something I mentioned in passing months ago and surprise me with it on my birthday or anniversary. We still celebrate the anniversary of the night we met, 11 years ago as well as our 6 years of marriage. To me, being romantic isn't about hearts and flowers and it doesn't always have to be a "grand gesture" it's just the everyday thoughfulness. Bea, I was so impressed by you buying your husband a shirt when you noticed his was worn etc. Now THATS romantic to me.

By Missbookworm on Thursday, February 24, 2005 - 05:48 pm:

LOL I just reread my post..and didn't mean to make it sound like we're "only" dating...we've been together over two years..and are talking about further commitment to each other than just dating..but we're taking things slowly Alot of my g/f's say they envy the relationship we have because we seem alot closer than most married couples they know even when we spend more than a few hours together. We spend days on end together and I know it's not the same as married life..cause he has his own stuff to do and I have my own...but they say it seems about as good as it's gonna get...I can only hope that once we are together more that we can maintain the closeness and compatibility we seem to share now.

And I agree replacing her hubby's shirt when she noticed it was worn is VERY romantic in my books

By Conni on Thursday, February 24, 2005 - 06:24 pm:

Well, I remember feeling more romantic when dh and I were dating. ROFL Those are nice memories. ha After 7 looooong yrs of *stuff* I dont feel real romantic anymore. I have to really think about it. LOL!

Terrible of me. MAybe a cute young gardner would spice me up? rofl I watch way too much Desperate Housewives...

By Missbookworm on Friday, February 25, 2005 - 11:07 pm:

LOL! my guy said I'm allowed to hire a cute young landscaper that i have a sexy older one...but darn it I tried :P

By My2cuties on Saturday, February 26, 2005 - 12:34 am:

I am not as romantic as DH but I think we both do pretty good to have 2 small children. We do little things for each other that makes the other one happy.