Is it proper to still send a sympathy card if your going to the funeral/calling hours? Or do you only send a card if you don't go to one of those?

By Karen~moderator on Monday, January 3, 2005 - 07:53 pm:

I don't know what's considered proper or not, but I usually send a card either way.

By Missmudd on Monday, January 3, 2005 - 08:40 pm:

Me too I send a card regardless whether I go or not. The family may not even realize that you are there to offer your condolences when they are greiving and stressed.

By Ginny~moderator on Monday, January 3, 2005 - 09:05 pm:

I would always send a card, with a personal note if you can. If you can say something about a good memory of the person to his/her loved ones, that is the nicest thing you can do. At a time of loss it is so hard to remember the good things, and a note that says something personal, that says you really knew that person in some way, is very nice to receive. BTDT.

By Marcia on Monday, January 3, 2005 - 11:00 pm:

There were over 300 people who signed the guestbook at the funeral home when Sonja died. I can't even remember who was there. I still look at the cards and kinds words, as well as what everyone on the internet wrote to me. Those words mean so very much.
I would send a card.

By Colette on Tuesday, January 4, 2005 - 07:21 am:

ditto Karen.

By Kernkate on Tuesday, January 4, 2005 - 07:26 am:

Usually if I am going to the funeral or calling hours I bring the card with me, they usually have a place set up that you can leave them. If I do not go I always send one.