Okay so I am supposed to go test some wine to see what I like the best...I figure I will just put a drop in my mouth and taste it to see if I like it. Question..I was planning on having a couple oz. tomorrow night with dh after the kids went to bed and to celebrate the new year. I wonder if that would be alright..like 1 small wine glass of some red wine. Anyone know? TIA

By Lauram on Thursday, December 30, 2004 - 07:56 pm:

Anything in moderation is fine- at least that's what my dr said. I never took him up on it- but then when I went into labor he wanted me to have a shot of whiskey (EWWWWW!) My second labor another dr wanted me to have a couple glasses of wine (I did that). Then when my milk wouldn't come in (ds was hospitalized for dehydration), I was sent to drink dark beer (yuck!) Anyhow, I'd say go for it.

By Breann on Thursday, December 30, 2004 - 08:21 pm:

I wouldn't do it purposely, but that's just me. My doctor did say that a small amount would be fine, but I wasn't chancing anything! lol

By Melanie on Thursday, December 30, 2004 - 09:11 pm:

I had a glass of wine here and there with each pregnancy. I won't recommend it, obviously, but I was comfortable doing it once in a while.

By Palmbchprincess on Thursday, December 30, 2004 - 09:19 pm:

I had an occassional glass during my pregnancy, maybe 3 or 4 total. My doctor also said moderation was key, and I think you'll be fine.

By Brandy on Thursday, December 30, 2004 - 09:34 pm:

Well me personally i wouldn't do it but it's up to you..

By Boxzgrl on Thursday, December 30, 2004 - 09:54 pm:

Ditto Melanie and Crystal. Enjoy... in moderation!

By Tink on Thursday, December 30, 2004 - 10:10 pm:

I'd say it's okay, too. It's one glass on one night. JMO

By My2cuties on Thursday, December 30, 2004 - 10:13 pm:

Well, after posting this I started thinking and searching the internet and I have decided to just enjoy a glass of Sparkling White Grape Juice..lol Maybe me and dh will enjoy a nice glass once the baby gets here in May. Thanks though.

By Paulas on Thursday, December 30, 2004 - 10:22 pm:

I am SO GLAD you made that choice. I was researching some stuff before posting and you made this decision before I could type in my response.

When you drink, so does your baby. The effects of FAS are life lasting and why take that risk??? As someone who has taught many students with FAS and FAE I would say "it's just not worth it!"

By Marcia on Thursday, December 30, 2004 - 10:40 pm:

Ditto Paula. FAE/FAS can occur because of even one drink at the wrong time. I wouldn't do it.

By Pamt on Thursday, December 30, 2004 - 10:49 pm:

And the thing you have to remember about a baby and alcohol is that they do drink when you drink, then they excrete it in their urine, which they also drink. So...a baby ends up drinking much more than you do. I think there is NEVER any reason to even have so much as a sip if you know you are pregnant. Glad you made the decision not to.

By My2cuties on Thursday, December 30, 2004 - 10:56 pm:

Thanks for making me feel I made the right decision.

By Andi on Thursday, December 30, 2004 - 10:57 pm:

I am so glad you made that decision!!! I don't think the risk is worth it. You have the rest of your life to drink wine, I don't think it's the best decision when you have a little person growing inside of you, you just don't know what could happen.

By Missmudd on Friday, December 31, 2004 - 01:08 pm:

I think you made the right choice too. If you were later in your pregnancy like 8 months than I wouldnt be as concerned since most everything is all put together at that time, but you still are pretty early and I would worry more about it.

By Amecmom on Friday, December 31, 2004 - 04:36 pm:

Glad you feel comfortable and happy with your choice. Did you check with your doc for an opinion?

After the first trimester, I had wine occasionally during both my pregnancies and had no problems with my childrens' development. I was told by my OBGYN that an occasional glass of wine after the first trimester was fine.

I think it's a bit extreme to say that one glass of wine is going to cause a child to develop FAS! There's no reason to scare women who have had a glass of wine during pregnancy, or who continue to have some on occasion, after the first trimester.

We make our own choices based on the best of what medical research has to offer. Right now, there is no study that conclusively shows light wine consumption having any negative effect on the fetus.

Pregnancy is a scary enough time without making women feel guilty or vilifying them for choosing to have a glass of wine. They are not risking the health of their unborn child, and it is unfair to imply it.

An unpopular opinion, I know, but I had to express it.

By Amecmom on Friday, December 31, 2004 - 04:47 pm:

Oh, here's a link I forgot to add:
FAS Factors

By Boxzgrl on Friday, December 31, 2004 - 05:06 pm:

Ditto Ame.

By Lauram on Friday, December 31, 2004 - 05:09 pm:

I have to agree that one glass of wine could not cause FAS. I don't drink myself- nor did I drink during pg (except during #2's labor as mentioned above)- but I can't imagine one glass doing it. I think we'd have a lot more cases if that were the situation!

By Breann on Friday, December 31, 2004 - 05:31 pm:

I'm glad that you did your research and made the right decision for you

If your baby were here in your arms you wouldn't put just a little bit of wine in his bottle would you? Of course not!! What you eat/drink, your baby eats/drinks.

I agree that pregnancy is a scary enough time. IMO there isn't any reason to add to that scary time by giving the baby things that are essentially unhealthy at such a tiny age.

((((hugs)))) Look forward to that glass of wine in May, and enjoy that sparkling grapejuice

By My2cuties on Friday, December 31, 2004 - 05:32 pm:

Thank you Ame for the info, I did not find that on the internet when searching, I appreciate you're input. Although, I believe I am going to wait and celebrate the birth with a nice glass. I do appreciate the information once again.

I go to the doctor on Tuesday (appointment/ultrasound) and I may bring it up just to hear her views on it.

By Paulas on Friday, December 31, 2004 - 06:14 pm:

Ame...it's great that you had no problems and were still able to drink a few glasses of wine during your pregnacy. You may be correct in stating that one glass of wine will not cause FAS but the fact is they just don't know EXACTLY how much is needed...that's why they advice women not to drink during pregnacy.

Again, I say "why take the risk!"

By Marcia on Friday, December 31, 2004 - 06:39 pm:

Ame, if you'd reread what I wrote, you would realize that I did not say it WILL cause it, but it CAN. No one knows exactly when it happens, and there are many more cases than you can even imagine. So again, why risk it? It's certainly better to be safe than sorry.

By My2cuties on Friday, December 31, 2004 - 11:47 pm:

My Dh is soooo sweet, he brought home a 4 pack of Wine glasses (we didn't have any because we do not drink) and a bottle of Sparkling White Grape Juice. We opened the bottled a few minutes ago so the girls could drink with us, and now they are in the bed, and we are waiting for the new year....goodnight everyone, see you next year!

By Breann on Saturday, January 1, 2005 - 01:00 am:

Happy New Year to you too!
We shared a sparkling grape juice toast with our kids too!

By Mrsheidi on Sunday, January 2, 2005 - 09:13 pm:

Drank a half glass of wine about every 2 weeks with food and water...family full of doctors that said once a week is ok too...my son is fine!!!

By Kaye on Monday, January 3, 2005 - 09:05 am:

I am glad you made that choice too. When i think of pg I just think about what a miracle that anything goes perfect. Stasticially you are much more likely to have a problem than not too. But that doesn't happen. I did not drink, because after teaching special education I realized that you just never KNOW what can happen when. A car wreck, a bladder infection, etc, all those can lead to very serious issues (or you could have no issues at all from them). Alcohol you can control, so why risk it? There is a risk, especially for someone who had never had a drink. You may have an allergic reaction, you could be a "cheap drunk" etc. I have a cousin who drinks often, when she was pg with her first she too choose moderation. Nothing during the first trimester, then a glass of wine every couple of weeks. Well her son really has more problems than I can list. He has terrets, would he of had this anyway? Who knows, they aren't really sure what causes this. Ultimately his brain chemistry isn't quite right. It is a guilt she has had to live with, did she do this to him? Anyway, everyone has a choice, but in general I choose to err on the cautious side.