I realize Connor was sick all weekend, but I've reached my breaking point.

He's doing the same thing that I hear all toddlers do but he is sick so I can't just hand him off to anyone and get a break.

He wants something, so I give it to him. Then, he decides he doesn't want it....ugh. Nemo books or Thomas books...he chooses one and then screams for the other after I whip out his first choice.

He changes his mind ALL THE TIME and he won't eat what he used to eat. He's starting to get his hunger back but all he ate for dinner was his fruit cup (barely). He wouldn't touch his chicken (which he never has eaten chicken) or his bread (which he normally loves.) Since a week or two ago, he hasn't wanted to come to the table AT ALL. So, that part isn't due to being sick. Being sick just magnifies it all.

It's hard, because he's grouchy due to being hungry yet he won't eat. So, he fought dinner, bath, and even brushing his teeth which he normally loves! I'm just so tired. I'm so tired of being both the mommy and daddy for 346+ days...thanks for letting me vent...I think it's my turn to cry!!

By Beth on Monday, January 8, 2007 - 09:53 pm:

Hang in there! ((HUGS)) There is light at the end of your tunnel. We all feel this way sometimes and you have done a great job on your own. Your dh would be proud.

By Reds9298 on Monday, January 8, 2007 - 10:02 pm:

(((HUGS)))

By Imamommyx4 on Tuesday, January 9, 2007 - 10:45 am:

When will dh be home?

I will keep you in my prayers.

By Mrsheidi on Tuesday, January 9, 2007 - 12:25 pm:

97 more days!!!

By Nicki on Tuesday, January 9, 2007 - 01:40 pm:

He can't come home soon enough, can he Heidi?
Hugs for you and Connor. Lara does the same thing when she is sick. Changes her mind and I can't get a moment to myself. It is very hard, but harder for you because you can't go to Scott when you need that break.
I'm hoping Connor is better today.

By Annie2 on Tuesday, January 9, 2007 - 02:34 pm:

I feel for you Heidi. I would ask around the neighborhood or maybe a local college to find a sitter, once or twice a week. You really need a break. It's not doing anyone any good to get so frustrated. You are probably both emotionally and physically drained. A few hours at a time, out of the house, to have some quiet time with yourself or friends can be energizing.

Connor may be upset when you leave, he may even cry the entire time you are away (most likely not LOL) but you really need Heidi time.

I have BTDT. For the first 12 years of our marriage DH was a Marine. He was deployed for over half of that time. Including Desert Storm and two six month deployments. One when we were in Japan and I had just given birth to our fourth baby.

Hang in there. At least there is a light at the end of the tunnel. (((HUGS)))

How is Connor today? How are you?

By Annie2 on Tuesday, January 9, 2007 - 02:41 pm:

Double post, sorry

By Amecmom on Tuesday, January 9, 2007 - 10:38 pm:

Hang in, Heidi. It's tough to be the mom of a little one, let alone a sick little one. Just know it will pass and that we're here to read your vent anytime you need us.
Ame

By Mrsheidi on Wednesday, January 10, 2007 - 01:41 pm:

Thanks you guys. Connor is finally feeling better. His fever is gone and he's his usual self!
As for getting a break, I usually do. It's just this past few weeks my babysitter has had to bail on me and the other lady who watches him said that all her kids are sick.
So, this week should be different. Although, I was supposed to take a Yoga class tonight and the only babysitter that knows how to put him to bed said she couldn't make it (she told me this only yesterday), but I do have a caretaker for him on Thurs and Friday from 10:30-12:30. One day I have to take my mom out but the other day I will have 2 hours to do errands.
I just miss the DAILY help, you know? I work out every morning except Sundays and I'm just tired. Whine, whine, whine...I know.

By Annie2 on Wednesday, January 10, 2007 - 06:48 pm:

96 more days, Heidi!!!

By Nicki on Wednesday, January 10, 2007 - 10:23 pm:

Heidi, so often on the days I can't wait for my dh to walk in the door and give me some relief, I think of you. Yes, that daily help is so important. I would imagine some of your days seem SO long.
I'm so glad Connor is feeling better!

By Dawnk777 on Thursday, January 11, 2007 - 07:59 am:

I'm glad Connor is feeling better. Sick kids are no fun.

By Annie2 on Thursday, January 11, 2007 - 02:47 pm:

Heidi, how are you and Connor doing today?

Thinking about you

By Mrsheidi on Thursday, January 11, 2007 - 07:53 pm:

Thanks, Annie...doing ok...it's day 2 without eating but 2 bites of his dinner. He's not sick anymore so it's just being picky. I think I might have to start another thread!
I'm just tired. I did have someone watch him today and we did go to the gym. But, after his nap, all heck broke loose. I just cried...if he doesn't eat anything, we both are grouchy.

By Nicki on Thursday, January 11, 2007 - 08:29 pm:

Heidi, it took a few days before Lara would start eating again after her tummy flu. She had an appetite, but she kept asking if this or that would make her sick again. Even after I would assure her it would be okay, she wouldn't eat. So, I understand. I'm sorry you had a bad afternoon. I hope he starts eating normal again, soon.

By Mrsheidi on Thursday, January 11, 2007 - 08:52 pm:

Thanks, Nikki...maybe that's what's happening. He just doesn't talk and tell me what's going on. The speech delay can impede this eating process sometimes.
Thanks again...I'll keep that in mind! I didn't even think of that.

By Momof3 on Friday, January 12, 2007 - 01:43 pm:

I'm sorry I'm new to this and I didn't know where to post my concern-and Heidi, I'm sorry for you're little Connor! Just jumping in here, is you're hubby deployed? Well, either way it sounds as if it stinks right now! You're in my prayers! Ok-I have an issue, I have an 11yr girl who has a "boyfriend" and I have just found out that they were "suppose" to kiss the other day. I'm freaked! we are very strict Christain parents, she goes to a Christain private school and does not hang out with this boy besides at school. He seems nice enough and I know these things are gonna happen but geesh, at 11? Someone shoot me some advice please!!!

By Heaventree on Friday, January 12, 2007 - 02:04 pm:

Hey Michele! Welcome to the board. I have no advice mine are too little, but you might get a better response if you start a new thread/topic. Go back to the parenting board main section, scroll down to the bottom and hit the Create New Converstation button type in a title and just copy and paste what your wrote in this thread.

Good luck!

By Momof3 on Friday, January 12, 2007 - 02:50 pm:

thanks for the tip Heaventree

By Reds9298 on Saturday, January 13, 2007 - 08:59 pm:

Ditto Nicki. When Natalie had the stomach flu, she didn't eat mandarin oranges for probably 6months!! That was one of the last things she'd eaten before becoming sick. Prior to that she was eating 3 cups of mandarin oranges A DAY!