My son was diagnosed as definitely having adhd today. I know we still face trial and error as far as treatment goes,but I have spent several months very stressed, frustrated wondering why am I a bad mom who can't get her son to listen to anything? Why does he have to deal with adults griping at him all the time? He is so sweet. Bright. Sometimes its hard to see the good from the frustration of the bad. The dr at first said he sounded like he probably had it and wanted his teacher to fill out some forms. I explained she already faxed them in and he went to find them. He said they were already added up. Someone who is normal scores less than 10. He scored 28. Hopefully we won't have too much trouble with medication or anything. I feel selfish for admitting this but I feel kind of good right now. It's not me. It's not my son. It is the adhd causing all these problems. We can work to fix that. I have an answer! I didn't think I would feel so relieved but I do. I didn't realize how much I was worrying about what was wrong. Now I know. I feel like I shouldn't feel good. I don't want him to have to take meds, but I want him to feel better, like he is doing his best. If it was something else I would get it treated. A lot of people in my family think kids are over medicated, etc. etc. But they are not with him the way I am. I'm rambling now. Thanks for listening.

By Tink on Thursday, November 30, 2006 - 07:26 pm:

I can understand. My ds has autism, not ADHD, but the feeling of guilt because I must have done something wrong to not being able to handle my child properly is a heavy burden. Having an explanation and some kind of roadmap for different options on how to treat it is so relieving! Good luck on treatment options!!!

By Tarable on Friday, December 1, 2006 - 10:21 am:

Good luck. I know exactly how you feel. I felt the exact same way when my DDs got diagnosed. I have always said I will not allow the medication to change who they are. My oldest, Alexis, takes meds and I was really worried that they would change her since she is such a free spirit, but all they did was get rid of the annoyances like not being able to sit still and being able to control her actions. I hope you have the good luck that I had and they find the right combo of treatment fast and it makes the difference to help him.

By Tinajohnson on Tuesday, December 12, 2006 - 02:43 pm:

I sister's youngest son was diagnosed with adhd. she was very concerned with treatment and like you just wanted him to feel better. she went the homeopathic route in the end and my nephew is performing much better.
here's a site you might be interested in. there are many others. my sis found that a parent needs to DO THEIR HOMEWORK and that adhd is caused by a nexus of biological as well dietary and sociological issues. while consulting a dr is essential, the parent needs to be just as much an expert.