Church festival - toddler bothering big brother
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We were at a church festival yesterday, in a town just south of Madison, WI. Sarah's favorite Christian group was going to be performing there, so that is why DH and I went. We mostly got to spend the day, with each other, since Sarah was hanging out with some fellow fans, who live in MN. They know each other from a fanclub message board and the only time they see each other is at concerts!
Anyway, she was hanging with her friends, up by the stage and DH and I were farther away to save our ears. They lots of little rides and stuff, for the younger crowd and we were sitting hear where one of the lines was. This couple had two little boys, one a toddler, maybe 18 months old and probably a 2yo, or so. The toddler was waking around the wagon. The older one, was in the wagon. Everything was good, until the toddler decided the handle for the wagon, should be up instead of down, so have lifts it all the way up, bonking the 2yo in the head. 2yo is not happy. He pushes the handle down. Then the toddler lifts it up again and 2yo tries to keep him from setting it down on his head again, even pushing the toddler a little bit. Dad is sitting on the ground, not doing a thing about it. Mom isn't really paying attention.
Then the toddler lifts up the handle again and sets it down, AGAIN bonking the 2yo in the head. Still parents don't really do anything. 2yo is now quite irate, having been bonked in the head twice and puts his hand on the toddlers face and really pushes him down. I see the whole thing and yell OUCH! really loud as the handle comes down on the 2yo's head, AGAIN! Sheesh! DH told me to stop watching then. I think they left the line, shortly after that.
I felt bad for the 2yo, because no one was stopping the toddler. I know the 2yo shouldn't have pushed his brother, but the kid had just hurt him twice. He was rubbing his head. The toddler was too young to know that he was hurting his brother, so I wish dad would have done more about it! It seemed like no one was acknowledging that the 2yo was getting hurt. I was sooo frustrated!
Makes you want to take the parents and box their heads together! And this will continue on throughout their childhood since the parents aren't intervening.
There is a family in my neighborhood (3 boys, 17, 13, and 11) where the 17 year old boy constantly picks on the 11 year old brother which has made him VERY agressive. In fact, just looking at the two younger brothers, you wouldn't know that the agressive one is the youngest. You would think that the middle one is actually the youngest, because he takes so much crap from his younger brother, and is actually more passive.
Oh, I can just see that little 2yr old in my mind! Poor thing. I would have been frustrated, too.
I had one of my Kindergarteners come to school one morning (a girl) with a black eye. When I questioned her about in an unsuspecting way, she immediately got weird on me. The older sister (about 3 years older) came in later that afternoon. I got them together and asked them about it and then they both got weird. I immediately suspected some type of abuse (I knew the parents, so it was feasible from them) and filed a report with the school liason.
The officer went to the home and discovered that the older sister (that I had also questioned) had punched the Kindergartener in the eye. He had the NERVE to come to me and say (laughing mind you) that "Kids will be kids and that's just the way it is. You can't change that." Heck if you can't!!!!!!!!! The parents were being very irresponsible to allow that to happen. That little girl had bruises all over her, and he related another story about the sister pushing the K into the dresser and causing arm bruises. WHAT??!!
Ditto Lisa...knock the parents heads together. In this case, the parents were too busy smoking pot and drinking, so who KNOWS what went on in that house.
Yikes, Reds! That girl was causing the abuse, and no one cared! Sheesh. Poor kid.
I don't think the toddler was doing it with malicious intent, but the parents should have been watching the toddler, since they can do stuff like that. "Don't hurt your brother. Let's do something else!"
It's the parents fault. The poor thing. I have to keep a close eye on Julianna because she loves to torment Claudia sometimes. That would annoy me too.
There are cases when "kids will be kids" and accidents happen. DS gave DD a black eye with a pool stick. He was just aiming for a shot and DD was in the wrong place at the wrong time. I saw it happen, and was worried people would think the worst. Thankfully, nothing came of it.
Dawn, that would have bothered me, too! In fact, it probably would have taken all my will power NOT to intervene. Wow, how could the parents not have noticed?!
Trina- You're absolutely right about kids being kids, and accidents always happen. But this family...you wouldn't believe. It was nothing like your situation or an innocent accident. This kiddo was getting knocked around, probably from aggression in the older sister over things that were going on in the home.
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