I seem to have forgotten....
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how much I despise potty training!!!!
Nathan has been peeing on the potty for 3 days now. He's had only two pee accidents. But were at the refusal to poop on the potty. Same thing Kaitlyn did. I hate this part! LOL
I feel like i'm constantly asking him if he has top pee to make sure he doesn't wet himself. Has has not told me yet that he has to go but I don't know if it's because i'm always asking. I wonder if he will ever tell me he has to go? Last night and tonight has been a battle with the potty. He HAS to go, but will tell me he doesn't want to and will whine for a good 3-4 minutes before he gives up and goes.
I'm not in a rush to potty train him. This wasn't even planned. I just put underwear on him one evening and noticed he was holding his urine. I tried him overnight and he hasn't even wet himself overnight. So I know he's capable of doing it but at the same time I wonder if he's *really* ready. I don't want to doubt him and throw the diapers back on him but I don't want to rush it either. I'm in no rush to give up the diapers since he's our last. LOL
I don't know what i'm looking before because I know what all the advice is. I guess maybe just a mothers perspective?
I personally would put pull-ups on him and tell him that if he feels the need to go, then he can pull them down and go.
I hated potty training and loved the moment when they were both out of diapers!
I have heard horror stories about problems with pooping, but was lucky because mine prefered to poop in the toilet.
i think if your doing this good with underwear i wouldn't put pull ups on him they are just like diapers basically lol...keep it up you can do it...
I'm sure I've posted our potty training story on here before, but I'll do it again. 
Robin was HORRIBLE to potty train. It took us over a year and a half and he still had accidents. It turned into a HUGE power struggle. Hey, my first kid, what did I know? Anyway, I decided I was NOT going through that again with Randy and I was going to let him totally lead the whole potty training thing. It was one of those "He won't go to school in diapers" things. Yeah, the were expensive, but worth it to avoid the problems we'd had with Robin. Anyway, two weeks before he turned 3yo he said, "Mama, I wanna wear underwear. He's been staying dry all night, during naps and for at least 3-4 hours at a time during the day. I said okay. The kid day and night trained himself in 2 days! He had one pee accident and asked for a diaper to poop in for about a week. When I finally got him to sit on the potty he grabbed hold of me by the neck and screamed, "Mama!!! Don't let me fall in!!!" I assured him I wouldn't and that was it. I think he had one accident after that--ever. That happened because he was at a friend's house (age 4 or 5) and he couldn't get the sliding glass door open to get inside (and my friend said he was devastated!). So long story short, do NOT let this turn into a power struggle--you'll loose. This is something he has total control over and there's nothing you can do about it. Maybe like my youngest he's afraid of falling in. That potty is scary looking to a 2 or 3yo! AND it sucks things in and you never see them again! lol He'll get it, and no, he won't go to school in a diaper. Hugs
Oh, and if he's making progress and you really think he's ready, I wouldn't waste my money on pull ups. They are too much like diapers. I'd buy rubber pants before I did that. Jmho
Yeah, I think pulls up would be no different for him than the diaper.
Kaitlyn trained similar to how Robin did. We did push potty training when she turned 2 but she totally resisted and it was really stressful on all of us. I gave up. Right when she turned 2 years, 5 months old she woke up one morning and said she wanted to use the potty. She did and never went back. She had maybe 2 accidents, ever. It was simple.
Surprisingly after I wrote this post, Nathan has been okay. He stopped fighting about sitting on the potty and i've just tried not asking him so often if he has to go. (I guess that does get annoying after a while, huh? LOL) I caught him mid-poop getting ready to go and put him on the toilet. He finished in there and is suddenly excited about it. I've been watching for him to start grabbing his parts and that's how I know he needs to go.
I'm not going to fight with him about it but I don't want to give up so easily either. I guess i'll just keep watching his cues and if he fights too much, well, as Cat said... that's a losing battle! LOL
The reason I like pull-ups is because it allowed my kids to use the restroom on their own easier than the diapers did. They worked well for us, but that is just my opinion.
Good luck on the training.
I used pull ups too. I was never one to ask dd if she had to go, so the pull ups were a blessing. I figured she would never get the hang of it if I were the one always asking her if she needed to go. She needed to learn the feeling of having to go and the pull ups saved some accidents while she was learning. She was never one to treat them like a diaper though! I'll bet she was only in them for a month or less.
We went straight to training pants with DD, but DS is a whole other potty land! He went potty when he was 10 months old, including poopy. He did it a couple times and that was the end of that. He is now going to be 4 in Feb, and I would say has been pretty dry for the last month.
We did wear pullups and often. However, this last time we stopped pull ups, he was the one who told me he was ready. We had lots of accidents, mostly at night or at some one elses home. But I did find that going back to pull ups after we had made significant steps forward only set him back. He liked not having to take time to go. Now he hates the idea of a messy bottom and would never go back to pull ups, but before that, it was difficult to convince him cleaning a poopy out of pull ups too way more time than using the potty.
Long story short, don't go back to pull ups unless you really feel he is not ready. Honestly, my son wasn't ready until HE told me he was ready. Capable? Well he had already proven he was capable at 10 months, but not ready yet.
Today was the first time ever he went potty at my moms house without me there or being told "you go now, or you don't play outside". Mom even called me to say "I found the toilet seat up! And I didn't do it. C finally went by himself!"
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