Last Friday Matthew had a fever and wasn't feeling well, the fever continued into Saturday and Saturday night. Of course these things always happen on the weekends.

I gave him Tylenol and DH gave him lukewarm baths to help cope and this seemed to work on the fever part. We took him into our bed if he awoke during the night so we could all sleep.

Now his personality, we are at a complete loss. He is making strange or shy with people for the first time, he has boughts of complete and utter frustration. He will not be comforted. He cries and wants up, I pick him up and immediately he wants down, I put him down and he wants up. I don't pick him up he has a complete melt down. He sat on the floor the other day with his back to the wall and banged his head against it.

He has complete melt downs in his high chair for no apparent reason. He won't eat and throws his food.

He has never been a difficult child, I'm at my wits end and I don't know what to do. I want him to come downstairs he won't. I don't want him to go downstairs he wants to go downstairs. He has looked pale and sickly since last Friday, but I have been holding off taking him to the doctor as he has times when he is fine and I have an OB appointement every week anyway. We are leaving for the doctor in about 20 mins, however, our doctor is away and we will be seeing someone else.

I'm hoping he is just teething or has an ear infection, that we can understand, treat and deal with. I can't deal with a new born and a child gone mad! He doesn't look sick anymore and is sleeping thru the night again. He has gone back to 2 very long naps during the day. Yesterday I put him down at 11 and he slept until 12:30. Then by 2 he was ready again and I had to wake him up at 5. He was back in bed by 8, he slept right thru until 6:30 this morning.

Other than the ususal temper tantrum stage does anyone have any ideas of suggestions or is this my life from now on?

By Colette on Wednesday, August 24, 2005 - 08:47 am:

Sounds like he's still not feeling great - especially if he is sleeping that much. Good luck at the dr.

By Trina~moderator on Wednesday, August 24, 2005 - 09:03 am:

{{{HUGS}}} I agree that he could still not be feeling back to his normal self. Also could be the onset of the "age of independence".

By Trina~moderator on Wednesday, August 24, 2005 - 09:06 am:

Forgot to mention separation anxiety, which would tie in with his making strange/shy with people. Totally normal, some kids more so than others.

By Mrsheidi on Wednesday, August 24, 2005 - 09:17 am:

Sorry, Heaventree!!!
How is he doing now? {{HUGS FOR MOMMY}}

By Heaventree on Wednesday, August 24, 2005 - 10:51 am:

Well we are back. Doctor said his ears are clear, thought it might be a bit of a sore throat as his throat was a bit red. Said we should just leave things for now and treat with Tempra or Tynlenol for now unless things change.

Poor little buddy, he must be so frustrated not being able to express himself. He's up in his bed again. He needs a break and so do I. The laundry is calling.

Thanks everyone.

By Imamommyx4 on Wednesday, August 24, 2005 - 12:15 pm:

The whole thing sounds like a virus which you basically treat the fever and irritability with Tylenol. Did the dr suggest using Motrin susp? I think you can start using Motrin at about 6 months, but you might want to check with your dr. In some cases, it helped my dd more than Tylenol. And my dd did the same thing when she was little and got sick. Very irritable and nothing pleased her. Now that she's 4 and when she doesn't feel well and I know it, I ask her if she's feeling grumpy and she can tell me. It helps some.

I always hated it when I took the kids to the dr and he just says go home and give them Tylenol. You have fretted for days over this child and want somebody to do something to make him better. It's what needs to be done, but it is frustrating none the less.

I hope your little guy gets to feeling better really soon. I very much sympathize.

By Dawnk777 on Wednesday, August 24, 2005 - 01:10 pm:

Hope he is feeling better soon. It's frustrating to wait out a virus!

By Jelygu on Wednesday, August 24, 2005 - 09:45 pm:

Hope he feels better soon! My son acts a lot like that when he feels bad. I think they just get so frustrated and don't know what to do about it.

By Clarabel on Wednesday, August 24, 2005 - 10:05 pm:

I hope he is better soon.It's probably a common cold or teething and he knows that baby is coming and his whole world is about to change.
But I am also wondering..has he had a vaccine of any kind lately?

By Missmudd on Thursday, August 25, 2005 - 12:10 am:

If I can count on my fingers right Matthew is about 17 months? Check out the post about terrible twos, and I am sorry that he is going through a rough spot.

By Heaventree on Thursday, August 25, 2005 - 09:48 am:

Well I've got my little boy back. He's feeling much better today. There is no doubt however those terrible twos are on the way. I think the sickness just exacerbated the behaviour, he is much more managable and pleasant today. Yeah!

He is still banging his head on just about anything, but I can see now it is just for attention, so we are trying to manage that.

Thanks again.