Neighborhood Kids/Friends
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Let me just start by saying I haven't cared for my neighbor/friends kids since the day we moved in here, 3 years ago. Every rant I have on here about neighborhood kids is about her kids. I've tried and tried but they just crawl under my skin. They don't listen whatsoever and are sneaky little things. And worse, they are Kaitlyn's friends.
For the last month they were on vacation in Texas. It was the most heavenly month since the day we moved in. Peaceful and quiet, no disturbances as early as 7am. The neighborhood stayed clean because they weren't here to throw their trash all over and leave their toys everywhere.
Their 5 year old does things NATHAN does. Playing in the bathroom water, teasing animals, sneaking food, spilling messes and hiding them, and just being a sneaky deceitful little girl. I can't fully blame her, it's the product of her mom not parenting her. Her mom is one of my best friends. Confronting the situation could leave me with an awkward living arrangement considering they live right next to me. But they have been home for 3 days and i'm already on the verge of a meltdown. I feel like crying because my hands are tied. I told DH it would be heaven to move right now.
Part of my problem (and maybe you girls have advice for this) is that Kaitlyn copies everything her daughter does when she's around her. Things she would never dream of doing otherwise. Things she KNOWS not to do because her face screams guilt as soon as I catch them. I get so stressed out over this situation that I could just scream. I have tried EVERYTHING with Kaitlyn. Time out, grounded, banning her from playing with this neighbor girl for "x" amount of days. It's ridiculous. And she doesn't even care about the consequences.
I don't know what to do. I came up here to vent out my frustrations because neighbor girl came over at 9am and the last thing I want to start my day off is her voice. It sounds bad but I really, really dislike her. It's not just me, it's the whole neighborhood that complains about her. Her mom has given her free reign on the neighborhood since she was 4 and shes like a little tornado outside. 
{{{HUGS}}}
Since she is 5, I would approach it like this. Everytime she does something that "is not allowed" in your house, I would explain the rules of YOUR house to her. Let her know that she has to follow those rules, or go home. In the beginning, I would give her a warning when she does something wrong. After that, follow through, and if she acts up and does something wrong, send her home.
I would tell the mom that you are having trouble with your dd, don't even bring her dd up. Let her know that if rules aren't followed, you have told your dd that you are sending home whoever is playing with her. This way your friend will know that her dd may be coming home some days, but it won't ruffle any feathers.
I had this situation with a neighbor in Chicago. I ended up sending him home once or twice, but after that he stopped getting in trouble and followed our rules.
Good luck. I would try and take care of this right away. There is no reason you should be miserable all the time.
That sounds frustrating! We had a little girl who always knocked on our door, when the kids were little and when she was playing with my kids, sometimes she could be mean. Then she started going to preschool at 4 years old, and started learning rules and limits and was a lot nicer. I also imposed limits, when she was at my house, too, and told her not to throw sand, at the beach, and stuff like that, so her behavior did improve.
I think having "house rules" would help a lot, especially if mom isn't imposing "house rules" at her house.
We had French doors, by our living room, in the first place that we lived, when we moved to Sheboygan. The door was really easy to slam. Even the neighbor kids learned not to slam the door!
Thanks girl.
I have tried "house rules" and telling my friend that Kaitlyn is the trouble and were taking a break. Situation #1 has never worked. Situation #2 blew up in my face last time.
As for now, i'm just REALLY glad that we found out yesterday who Kaitlyn's kindergarten teacher is, and this girl is NOT in her class!!!!!!! We've been staying away rom home and keeping busy yesterday and today and I feel so much better. I just needed to get away before I had a meltdown.
I know this situation needs working on and I hope one day to find a middle ground.
Thanks for listening to my whine.
Oh darn. At least she's not in Kaitlyn's class.
I'm glad she is not in her class!! Maybe she'll make some new friends.
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