I don't know how many of you remember me posting a couple of months ago about my DSD being abused by her stepfather and then when she told he killed himself. Well Since this stuff happened she went to counseling twice and she didn't like it so her mom quit taking her. She has been very angry and withdrawn since then and Tuesday night at 10:00pm we got a call from her mom asking if we had picked her up and of course we hadn't. They live in St. Mary's, GA and we live in Keystone Heights, FL. That is a 2 hour drive one way. So anyway as you have probably guessed she had run away from home. So we got in the SUV and drove to GA. About ten minutes from their house we got a call that they had found her. She was in Kingslang, GA at the bus station trying to get a ticket to Maine. So the police brought her home which just made her madder. Her mom went into her ••• story about how she is doing everything she can to help her but me nor dh buys this because she wont even take her to counseling. She has a babysitter that is a drunk and she let the kid go home by herself. DSD told her she was going home to take some Nyquill because she didn't feel well and she was going to bed and did not want to be disturbed. She didn't check on her for 4 hours. That is when they found out she was gone. Well now she won't come to visit us or my mil anymore and I am so afraid that she is going to do this again and next time we won't know anything. I dont know what to do. I am stuck with just being sm and so legally I have no right to do anything and dh cant get GA to do anything. If she lived in FL it would be easier. Any way I just needed to vent because I cant do anything else. If anyone has any advice please feel free to tell me. I could use all the advice and help I can get. Thanks for listening (or reading).

By Emily7 on Friday, May 27, 2005 - 09:36 am:

Can you guys petition the court for temporary custody? I am sorry that she is going through this, but someone needs to make her go into therapy, regaurdless of what she thinks she needs at this time. This time it might be an attempt at running away, next time it might be something worse. If she is not being properly supervised with what has happened to her she could start trying to "get away" with drugs, alcohol, men, ect.
Good luck

By Feona on Friday, May 27, 2005 - 09:58 am:

Does anyone think group therapy would help her?

I don't know if there is a substance abuse problem

I am thinking alateen

or something.

Where she can met and talk to kids her own age about her problems.

sort of 12 step

in addition to private therapy.


There is 12 steps for sexual abuse too recovery.

It is free which is nice too.

By Feona on Friday, May 27, 2005 - 09:59 am:

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/

By Feona on Friday, May 27, 2005 - 10:02 am:

http://www.12stepforums.net/

Here are some more names of 12 step programs.

By Latonya on Friday, May 27, 2005 - 10:06 am:

I will give this info to her mom and see if she will check it out. They are moving to FL in 2 weeks and then we can make sure more gets done. They will actually be farhter away from us but FL has a better Dept of Children and Families system that GA. We have already talked to them here and in GA and those here says that what her mom is doing is abuse so maybe we can get them on the ball when they get to FL. I am worried about what will happen between now and then but this stuff happened to her in GA so FL cant touch it until they live here and GA is one messed up state when it comes to this sort of thing.

By Feona on Sunday, May 29, 2005 - 09:28 am:

Also she should see the social worker at her school every week. Don't you think?

That should be free too.