hya i need some advice please help me.

the best friend of my son (almost 13) just rushed in and told that his parents have bought some little parcel in the wood. the former owner has left an old mercedes-benz-vehicle on the parcel. the parents of my son´s friend want to remove it because they want to build something there.

they have arranged a meeting with some other women and men who want to help pushing or bouncing or carrying out the car. they might be around 20 men and women. the car needs to be pried through some grass, mud etc. outside someone with a little break-down-lorry will be waiting, the car has to be pried onto it because it has no towing line.

it´s not sure whether it can be pushed at all because the wheels could be too rusty.

of course, the two boys want to go there.

on the one hand i don´t want to spoil the party and i don´t want to blame him as a little child, on the other hand i´m thinking of him getting hurt probably helping to lift the mercedes by hands or whatever.

i called the mom of his friend onthe phone but she was quite indifferent. she simply said they won´t geht muddy if they put on their old anoraks and their leather shorts and then we will see.

would you let him go there? so sad i can´t post a pic here but he´s not too tall and strong regarding his age.

hugs irene

By Rayanne on Saturday, October 2, 2004 - 11:09 am:

I would let him go. Let boys be boys. There will be A LOT of adult supervision, so I think that they (he) should be fine. JMHO.

By Emily7 on Saturday, October 2, 2004 - 12:19 pm:

If the adults that are going to be there are trust worthy I say let him go with some rules.

By Bellajoe on Saturday, October 2, 2004 - 01:32 pm:

Sure, that is such a cool thing for boys that age. let him put on some old clothes that you don't mind getting muddy, some boots and let him go have this experience with his friend.

I don't think the fact that he isn't strong enough to really help all that much should stop him from going. It's the experience that he probably would love.

It sounds like there will be pleny of supervision.

By Amy~moderator on Saturday, October 2, 2004 - 02:12 pm:

First of all, welcome to MV

I agree with the others in letting him go, so long that you feel you can trust the adults that will be supervising him. It would probably be a lot of fun for your boy.

By Mommmie on Saturday, October 2, 2004 - 02:15 pm:

I'd probably go with them.

By Imamommyx4 on Saturday, October 2, 2004 - 10:10 pm:

I've got 3 grown sons, 4 if you count my husband who would have said, "Let's go help and then get something and blow it up!"

It's a guy thing. Tell them to be careful and let them have fun.

By Jewlz on Sunday, October 3, 2004 - 12:03 am:

lol mommy of four ... ur hubby and mine are the same .... i would have let him go but would have been some what concerned ... i remember reading a email that descibed the things we did as kids and never checked in less we were thirsty or hungary and when the street lights came on we had to be home ... thats wehen we did all that ..and then mom found out what we did when we got home and and yes i was a and still am a tomboy ... id let him go worry abit but hell have fun being apart of a group and working together. thats what being a friend and being part of a neaighborhood gand is working together ... thats what memories are about

By Mommyathome on Sunday, October 3, 2004 - 11:46 am:

If you feel like you can trust the boys parents, I would let him go

By Audreyj on Sunday, October 3, 2004 - 01:47 pm:

As long as there are adults there I would let him go. AJ

By Imamommyx4 on Sunday, October 3, 2004 - 10:38 pm:

My 19 year son said, "don't blow it up. That's too easy. Smash it in or shoot it first."

I'm probably not helping here, but I raised 3 boys (and dh) who were always doing stuff I considered dangerous urged on by dh. Yes, there were bumps and bruises but nothing serious. DH is a free will but has enough common sense to keep them from getting hurt. Example: they were always experimenting with fireworks to see what they could blow up. But dh always made sure the fireworks had long wicks and never let them hold the stuff in their hands. I am tired and rambling badly.

I was a tomboy and would have thought it was fun, too.

By Cocoabutter on Monday, October 4, 2004 - 12:20 am:

I think your are a normal mom and your son is a normal boy. It's normal for moms to think about our babies getting hurt before anything else, and it's normal for boys to go with the moment and disregard anything else.

Having said that, I agree with the others. It's all about trust in the other adults. If you don't know them well enough, take your dh (or some other man you trust) and go supervise.

By Rayanne on Tuesday, October 5, 2004 - 11:15 am:

Did he end up going? Did he have fun?