How has everyone been doing with the kids at home all day?
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How has everyone been doing with the kids at home all day?
We have been really busy so I don`t think it has sunk in yet. The week school got out we camped for a week and now this week the kids all have had some sort of sport camp. The only thing that is grinding me is the bickering and arguing between my 2 girls age 9 and 11. I suppose they have to get used to being home together also. I just lost it a little while ago though and yelled at them (good example ,huh ?)for bickering so much. It`s going to be a long summer I think. Do any of you have a suggestion on how I can get them to stop ?
Everytime they argue, they have to go pull weeds.
My system: Strike 1-3 Strike 1 warning Strike 2 last warning strike 3 punishment. Playstation and TV are taken away from my son for reaching strike 3. My daughter has to go to bed early and loses her TV. Why different? because they are different and this is what they hold dear. You need to punish according to your child. Taking away privileges works in my home. I homeschool so basically have my kids 24/7. This system has given me sanity and them guidelines. They fight a lot less and try to work together on things. I even hear them tell the other "please don't do this because mommy may give you strike 3." Yvonne
I personally don't do the giving them warning system, I just tell them first thing when we get up "that we will not have any arguing today and if I hear it, you will both be sent to your rooms or separate corners" (because mine are too little to pulls weeds , good idea though ) I explain to them that I do not want to hear who started it because it takes two people to argue and if they have a problem with the other to come tell me and let me deal with it. It is working pretty good for me. I think my girls are close in age and they will probably always fight like my sister and I did growing up. It is funny because now my sister and I are best friends. Your girls are older so maybe you could make them sit in their rooms or take away privileges from each of them.
I did the weed pulling thing last year and it was a great deterent! Tomorrow is our first official day of summer vacation, so we'll see if my gardens get weeded.
Tomorrow is the last day of school so we're not quite there yet. Hmmm, I'll have to try the weed pulling thing. However, believe it or not, DD actually likes to weed! LOL! Taking away computer privileges works well though. I know that for sure. *EG*
I am pulling my hair out already...lol Luckily the neighbors little girl came over so my kids are actually playing instead of arguing. *sigh*
I am pulling out my hair too and I only have one! He is refusing to take a nap and that is the only time I have to regain my sanity. He rarely naps for me anymore, just dh. It's already almost too hot to be outside for any amount of time..high 90's. There is also the potty training. He wants to stay on the potty, claiming he has to go #2, for a half hour. Hopefully his pool will keep him busy when I set it up.
Looks like my garden might get weeded tonight...
I feel like I am not even seeing my kids this summer. My 14 year old ds, golfs, so he is either on the golf course or with friends. My 10 year old dd can go to our neighbhorhood (yes, there are lifeguards!) without a parent, so she usually packs a lunch and is gone for hours.
We've been so busy. We went camping, they went to another VBS last week and ours is this week, we go swimming almost everyday, we are going to visit my grandparents next week in PA, we are going to Florida for a week, Baseball just finished up..now we are getting into All Stars and camping again in July. My house looks horrible...but we are having fun and getting soo tired I remember one summer my Mom made us kiss and hug everytime she caught us arguing...we were 9, 12, 15....we stopped arguing or at least around her.
Well my girls are not officially out yet, my 11 year old still has another week to go, and the older girls have untill tommorrow then they just have exams next week. They are older, and my dd drives so I figure they will all just be going to the river or the beach on hot days, and I just might join them.As nice as the river is once you get it, it is hard to get over that intial shock then you are glad you did. It is super hot here today and the river sounds like a good idea
Today was my sons last day.. He wasnt home 10 mintues and him and his sister were arguing.. He likes to try to "boss" her around.. And she is so stubborn, wont have any of that..So as you can guess, it causes problems...Now hes next door playing with the neighbor boys..
My kids have been out for almost a month now. We've been doing pretty well, so far. We've been on the go non-stop. Things should calm down now, so we'll see how it goes from here on out. I enjoy it when the kids are home....they are growing up way to fast!
Thanks for the ideas gals ! I like it when my kids are home also,just not when they are constantly arguing and bickering over little things. It grinds on my nerve`s and I get angry. I will let you know how things go, thanks again,Sue We are going strawberry picking tomorrow a.m. I hope they don`t get into one of their arguments!! But I will know what to do if they choose to do that
It doesn't even feel like summer vacation has started for us yet!! Dd was in school thru the 3rd and we left for vacation on the 5th and come home on the 13th. This week I have been playing catch up on laundry and cleaning and shopping for Fathers Day and it has been nuts! I am hoping that next week we can start relaxing and having fun!!!
Well, I have four kids and after almost a month off of school I still have four left. So I guess we are doing okay here! LOL The bickering drives me bananas! What is with that? I have yet to find something that works. We haven't really gone anywhere yet. We go to the beach, to the Y to swim, saw a few movies, etc. Hopefully DH will take his vacation soon so we can take some overnighters and day trips. It's so hot & humid here for the past week or so, that being outside midday without water to swim in really isn't pleasant for anyone. These are the days I wish we had a pool!
Hubby has been dealing with them, since I had to be at work at 7:15am all week! Actually, since mine are older, they have been fine. Emily is trying to teach herself how to play the piano. They have been playing their flute and clarinet, taking the dog for walks, and playing with the dog, along with playing on the computer. I think they have been keeping themselves rather busy.
Well mine have been driving me bonkers too lol.The first 2 weeks they were in swimming lessons and to the library and now they aren't doing anything really so i need to take them to the library tomorrow for some prizes from reading = ) .Maybe i will check me out some true stories = ) and i actually might get a chance to read them too lol.They want to go outside but 5 seconds later they are back in mom there's nothing to do oh well so mostly they watch t.v. Nicholas will start Summer school next week i think well the 28th and he will be in there for 1 month so after that we only have 2 more weeks before they start school again.yay mommy alone time again although i'm going to try and get a job again in the cafeteria at the schools = ) wish me luck on that one.
Neener, neener! My kids are in year round school so I have to deal with the occasional fight during their "off-track" month but it isn't 2 1/2 months of boredom and bickering. They are both currently in school right now so my days off are time for my youngest dd and me to have girls' day. I'm having so much fun with the two of us. It seems like I'm seeing a pattern here. Keeping them busy = less bickering. I'll have to remember that.
My ds has been out of school for a 1-1/2 weeks and so far so good. As long as we go outside every afternoon they don't fight much. My oldest ds is playing baseball and they have had several games. The weather here is beautiful - high 70's to mid 80's. Everyone here is complaining that it is too hot, but we think it is great - much cooler then what we are used too. I just try and keep them busy. We are leaving tomorrow to visit my parents in Texas for a week. We get back and they start swim lessons for 2 weeks. Then my oldest goes to basketball camp each morning for a week. My in-laws are coming the next week. Once they leave, the boys go to day camp together for 3 weeks. They will go for a few hours, 3 days a week. Yea!!! Mommy time. Once camp is over we are taking a long weekend at Disney. We get back and just one week left until school starts. We also bought a pass to the local pool, so we can swim when we want. My boys love to be outside, they love playing sports and swimming. I just try and run them and then they are too tired to argue. I am very lucky though, my boys really get along great. They are so different in personality that I think they really compliment each other.
We are managing fairly well so far. Brett who is almost 10 loves the outdoors, riding his bike all the time. Alissa wants to be outside all the time to, so my housework is being neglected. But as I have said many times before, they grow to quickly and my housework will be there until I do it. So our summer is going good...so far. And the weather has been excellent. Nice and warm.
Been great here!! So busy they havent had time to argue much. When they do argue I always immediately end the activity they are doing (fighting over). Sometimes I'll say once, 'if you dont stop arguing and cant get along while playing that game I am putting it away!' They know I am serious and they always quickly work out the issue they are having. So far this week we have been gone everyday. Went to Aquatic ctr one day, picked Blueberries one day, went to Tulsa yesterday to take my niece and nephew home, etc.... Today I am actually having a day ALONE!! My Mom took the kids yesterday. They stayed the night on mema and papa's farm and will be there until tomorrow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It was so nice to sleep in til 7:45 am (ok i couldnt sleep very late--my head was screaming for coffee). This morning I am cleaning house a little, this afternoon I am going to the matinee to see 'TROY' by myself. Tonight I am going to the lake with some friends and we are going to play around out there tomorrow. (ride the tube, jet ski, etc...) However, my friends are bringing their kids. lol So, I may as well have mine out there too. Hope everyone is having a good summer!
I am going ABSOLUTELY BONKERS!!!!!!!! The 17 yo is pretty much never home....she has a job and a friend...great!!! Works for me!!....the 12 and 13 year old are......there are not words for them The 6 yo usually is pretty good at keeping herself occupied but is having an emotional day today!!!God, give me strength. I do the take away stuff too. With the 13yo it's her game-boy advance sp, with the 12 yo it's the phone. I just send the 6 yo to her bedroom. The 13 yo and the 6 yo are doing a reading program at the school from June 22 through July 30. It's 8:30-12:00 and they feed them breakfast and lunch. Yea!!!!!! The 12 yo is helping her dad so she can make some money this summer...cutting grass.... I have found the only way to handle all of them is to find them things to do. I HATE all the running but it helps keep my sanity! Good Luck to everyone in surviving the next couple of months. Ours go back August 23 or 24th. Let the countdown begin!! LOL!!
Everyone has been doing GREAT except Robin. We're changing meds right now and he's so hyper it's not even funny. We see the doc on Monday and it can't come soon enough. He may have to go to a friend's for the weekend! lol The kids here go back August 5th.
Hey ya'll () Just a question..... I spent today with the 6yo, the 12yo, and the 13yo. DH was working on a 'side job' for extra money (he's usually the stay at home parent) I sat here today listening to the 12 and 13 yo laugh and poke fun and pick on the 6 yo. This is what they do for fun and it's driving me bonkers. I can't stand to hear her get upset like that for no other reason than the 12 and 13 yo are BORED!!!! She hasn't learned how to pick back, although she is learning by example I assure you. It drives me bonkers. I don't know what to do. DH told me today that if they got on my nerves to put them to work but in order to do that I have to become this incredibly scary person or they won't listen to me. (DH blows off most of what I punish them for....says I am robbing them of their childhood...........PLEASE!!!!) I'm off from work tomorrow, which means I have them again. I told the 6yo we were going swimming since one of her classmates mothers called and asked about what we were doing. I told DH that I wasn't taking the 12 and 13 yo because this was one of the few ways I had of splitting them up. Once again I am the stepmonster from he]] because of it. I sat in my bedroom today (getting ready to go to work) listening to the 12 yo bark out orders to the 6yo....rewind it this far (video tape), but the 6 yo wants to hear THREE songs on the end of the tape,not just the last one, which she told 12 yo. to which the 12 yo responded, NO I don't want to hear all of that, just rewind it to the last song. 6yo willing obliged without complaining.....12 yo starts yelling at her...MOVE!!!!! Really mean!! (keep in mind it is about 1pm and 12 yo has not moved off of the couch, nor has she gotton dressed) Then I hear 6yo crying so I came out to simply turn the ******* thing OFF. 12 yo tells me, I asked her to move!!! ASKED her???????? I swear I'm going to lose my mind. Any suggestions????????????????????
No tv or videos, phone or game boy, until you are dressed and chores are done. Rudeness should not be tolerated so when they start picking on her send them to their room. If they are rude while eating dinner, still send them to their room and have them come out and finish when everyone else is done.
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