My daughter has been bugging me about dying her hair. I have been telling her no she is too young (8). Her bday is soon so i told her that i won't dye her hair but i will frost it a little. Is that gonna be a mistake?

By Emily7 on Thursday, April 15, 2004 - 04:51 pm:

I don't see anything wrong with a few natural looking highlights. I know I didn't start doing my hair until I was 14, but that was 16 years ago. Kids are so much more mature these days and its hard if her friends are being allowed to it.

By Payday614 on Thursday, April 15, 2004 - 04:55 pm:

i put streaks in my dd (11) hair last year. she has black/brown hair, so i put a light brown in. it was subtle and she was happy.

By Ladypeacek on Thursday, April 15, 2004 - 05:12 pm:

Well her hair is a dark blonde so i figure some subtle blonde highlights couldn't hurt. i have seen some boys her age with tips done. I dyed my hair a few times but not till i was 16. I don't know that her friends do it yet but she is fairly mature for her age. My best friend has a sister that is 21 now but when my dd was young she was in her teens and she spent alot of time with my dd, my dd would get all dressed up and they would do her hair and i would take them to the mall and they would walk around together while i shopped so i think thats where my dd got this whole fashin thing from.

By Amecmom on Thursday, April 15, 2004 - 06:07 pm:

Maybe you could wait until the summer and use some Sun-In. It will give her highlights, without the whole hair dye experience. I use it to give my hair just a hint of highlights and have never had trouble with it. I also see nothing wrong with having highlights done, if you want to go that route.
Ame

By Mommyathome on Thursday, April 15, 2004 - 06:59 pm:

My oldest is almost 6 and is already wanting to dye her hair. I keep telling her absolutely not! There is a little boy in my younger DD's preschool class that keeps getting his hair bleached on top (he's 4 years old). It looks really cute, but I think he's way too young to start that.

I think that Ame had a good idea. Just buy some Sun-In (or something similar) and see if she likes that.

By Kate on Thursday, April 15, 2004 - 07:55 pm:

My personal opinion is that she is far too young for that sort of thing. Kids grow up way too fast and it's dangerous, in my opinion. Everyone always talked about Jon Benet Ramsay and how she was dolled up like a grown up for those pageants and that that sort of thing attracts pedophiles. Your daughter has the majority of her life ahead of her to actually BE a grown up and I think right now she should be a kid. Next it will be make up and barely there clothing. Easier to draw the line right now than to give a little and then end up giving all the way or trying to pull her back with great resistance. Being 'mature' doesn't mean she should LOOK older than she is; she's still just a kid.

Just my opinion, of course.

By Colette on Friday, April 16, 2004 - 08:08 am:

I'm with Kate. JMHO.

If you really want to do highlights, you can streak it with lemon juice and send her out to play in the sun.

By Ladypeacek on Friday, April 16, 2004 - 08:24 am:

I do appreciate all the comments. We had a mom and daughter slumber party last night and i went ahead and did it for her. I am not real worried about the clothing issue with her as far as the barely there clothes. My daughter even though she is only 8 is a very dedicated christian. IN fact she is in the the baptistism class to be baptised and very mature in her religion. She knows what is inappropriate clothing for women and children. Being in England the clothes for kids her age ore very skimpy so we get her clothes on base and online. She shows no interest in that type of clothing. I realize that there is a possiblity that will change but i am hoping that with her being very active in church she will keep her good judgement.

By Dawnk777 on Friday, April 16, 2004 - 11:04 am:

There are so many kids at the elementary school where I work that have highlights or streaks in their hair and it's boys AND girls.

Mine have never asked for it. I think it's so cute on little boys when they have the top done. If six is too young, then when? I think I would do it to my little boy if I had one, but I would have no idea how.

By Mommyduncan on Friday, April 16, 2004 - 11:58 am:

My dd is nine and she has asked for highlights in her hair (I don't blame her, if my hair was the color of her hair, I would want it too, lol), but she is right in the middle of her hormones raging for the first time and since horomones have such an effect on your hair, I have decided that we will wait a few years though.

I have thought about getting lemon juice and putting it in her hair before she goes outside and play just to get some blonde highlights in it. When she was younger, her hair would turn such a pretty shade of blonde during the summer and it was beautiful and I really miss that.

By Ladypeacek on Friday, April 16, 2004 - 05:25 pm:

I liked the ideas of sun-in and lemon juice but that requires sun, lol England doesn't have any of that very often and when it does its only minutes!!! I am glad we did it, she loves it and its not overwhelming.

By Tink on Friday, April 16, 2004 - 08:50 pm:

My son is four and I took what was left from my hairlighting session and "tipped" his hair. Several parents at his school loved it and asked how I did it. I also have sprayed Sun-In in my 6yo DD's hair for the highlights. The only criticism I got for either was from my 18 yo sister. BTW, a hair dryer will activate Sun-In or lemon juice but not as dramatically.

By Marcia on Saturday, April 17, 2004 - 12:11 pm:

I used sun in when I was younger, and it made my hair a horrible orange colour. Not right away, but as time passed. I'm naturally blonde. (well, I was at the time. LOL)

By Yjja123 on Sunday, April 18, 2004 - 01:12 pm:

My daughter is a redhead. In the winter her hair turns the color of a penny (very brassy looking) We put sun-in on her hair and she goes outside. Instant highlights. She is happy and it looks just like is does naturally in the summer.

By Ghfaninnj on Monday, April 19, 2004 - 07:56 am:

I also put some highlights in my DD's hair. On her 11th birthday I took her on a mommy /daughter trip to the beauty salon and got her hair cut. We got home and I put the highlights in and she absolutely loved the day! I also agree that children are maturing way too quick these days, but I also feel that she knows right from wrong and that coloring her hair isn't going to change that.

By Conni on Monday, April 19, 2004 - 09:11 am:

My boys have hi-lites in their hair and they love 'em. ;) I saw the pic of your dd's hair it looks really good! I am not brave enough to hi lite it myself. The girl that has cut their hair since they were babies, does their hi-lites. They are both blonde. In the winter it turns a dark blonde. By the end of the summer they are light blonde.

My oldest has had it done 2 times now (he is almost 12) and my middle ds has had it done once. In Feb when they were both getting hi-lite's my ex (their Dad), met us up at the salon to pick them up for the weekend. When he walked in, Brad was sitting in the chair with a cap on, hair pulled thru and blue goop being brushed on! Ex said 'WHAT in the WORLD is going on here!' LOL He gave the boys such a hard time about it. (in a joking way) Then he told them how good they looked and that maybe he should try it sometime. ;)
I thought it was pretty funny.