Hi Everyone! I am a divorced father if a 14 year old girl who has pierced ears. Yesterday I let her get her ears pierced again. So now she has 3 on one ear and 2 in the other (all in the lobe). I think they look great on her. I am a very open-minded person and have no problem with ear piercing at her age. I do kinda feel a bit different about nose, tongue, belly button and eyebrow piercing at her age. I am looking for feedback from mothers and fathers on how you feel about multiple ear piercing for a 14 year old girl. Her mother is very upset about her getting the additional piercing. I don't really see the problem with the ears.

Tommy J.

By Cybermommyx4 on Wednesday, January 28, 2004 - 09:13 pm:

Is she a good kid? If her behavior is good, her grades are good, and she has a few extra earrings - you are a lucky family My DD is getting ready to have her second set of holes (she has had to work for this - getting on the honor roll, and waiting for her 13th b-day)- as long as the overall look isn't *trashy*, then my opinion is we should pick our battles and save the criticism for the really important issues. Maybe her mother is upset more because she views the ear piercing as a "girl's thing" and would have wanted to be there herself? Just a thought...

By Annie2 on Wednesday, January 28, 2004 - 09:15 pm:

My 12 year old dd and 8 year old dd both have their ears double pierced. My 10 year old dd doesn't want hers done. I draw the line there. No third hole and only on the lobe.
If they want to pierce their bellys or anything else, they will have to wait until they are 18.
I may soften on the belly when they turn 17 but not sure yet.

By Fireplug98 on Wednesday, January 28, 2004 - 09:54 pm:

Hi Cybermom ! You might be right about the "girls thing". I don't know but it did cross my mind after the fact. As far as Britt ( my daughter) getting the piercings while with me, it just happened. :-)

Tommy J.

By Dananivyboo1 on Wednesday, January 28, 2004 - 09:59 pm:

I'm still pretty young and have a younger teenage sister. I do not believe anything is wrong with it. Just last summer my mom paid for both me and my sister to get our belly buttons done. My sister was 17, she is a good kid and although she will get in the usualy trouble with boys.

I had 3 rings in each ear about the age of 15 cause my sister was scared twice and all was paid for so I had to sit in the chair. My mom was open minded and thats how I owuld like to be. I'm glad there is an open minded Dad out there.

By Trina~moderator on Wednesday, January 28, 2004 - 10:06 pm:

Welcome Firebug! I tend to agree with you. I have no problems with ear piercing (my ears are double pierced ) but don't think the other piercings you mentioned are appropriate for young girls. Ear piercing is pretty conservative nowadays. Was your ex-wife upset about the piercings, or the fact she wasn't involved in the decision? Two different issues all together.

By Bobbie on Wednesday, January 28, 2004 - 10:15 pm:

I am thinking you probably stepped on her toes. My dad did this with my youngest sister. My mom was so upset. It was something that she felt should have been discussed and she should have been the one to have it done. It isn't right but that just might be the issue.

I have problems with body piercings and tatoos on young kids. There are 14 year olds at my daughters school with tatoo's. I just don't think a 14 year old know what they want let alone to do something so permanent.. I am all for the waiting until until 17/18 years old for anything drastic.

By Mommyathome on Thursday, January 29, 2004 - 12:08 am:

I have 3 holes in one ear and 2 in the other. I wish I only had one in each. I don't like the multiple earring look anymore. But, I begged and begged to get the 2nd and 3rd piercing so it's my own fault.
I think that once kids get to a certain age (early teens!) that they can make some of these decisions themselves. I don't see anything wrong with having double ear piercing. I just wish I didn't have it LOL.

By Feona on Thursday, January 29, 2004 - 07:33 am:

Permanent alterations should be discussed first, I would imagine.

Think about if the mother had pieced the belly button, nose, tongue, belly button and eyebrow piercing without consulting you.

By Karen~moderator on Thursday, January 29, 2004 - 07:48 am:

I have no problem with double or triple piercings in earlobes. I have a belly ring, so do Jules and Jen. Jules had a host of piercings years ago that I didn't like, she doesn't have those anymore. However, she and Jen have both recently gotten their noses done. UGH! They have the tiniest diamond chip studs in them though, so it's actually not bad, and really not always noticeable and they look *delicate*. Jeff has piercings in his ears and he came home one day with his eyebrow done. The ring he wears in it is very small and you don't always see it. He's not allowed to wear that at his job.

I've always been pretty liberal about piercings and hair color and hair length...it was mostly a *pick your battles* thing. I figured if my kids were doing well in school, staying out of trouble, basically *being good kids*, those things were more important.

By Colette on Thursday, January 29, 2004 - 08:36 am:

I agree with most of the others, you should have talked to your ex about this before getting it done.

By Jjandmom on Thursday, January 29, 2004 - 09:54 am:

I have 3 piecings in both ears not bad but once I got to a certain age I only wanted to wear 1. As far as the belly my daughter tried doing hers herself and got infected really bad and riped throught the skin. I don't have mine done.If they want it done they will wait till they are 18. As far as the tongue I don't agree with getting that done when my kids are over 18 if they do it , it is there choice I don't have to pay for there teeth anymore.Kids do not look at it this way that the piecing in the tongue cracks the enamel on there teeth they don't know where that ring is hitting while they are sleeping so if they want to get it done when there older that is there choice but I'm not signing for it to be done . Sorry this is the way I feel.

By Melanie on Thursday, January 29, 2004 - 11:37 am:

I also do not have a problem with multiple ear piercings. And I also agree that you should have discussed it with her mother first. A friend of mine recently went through this with her ex. He took their six year old daughter to have her ears pierced without discussing it with her first. She was so upset that he did not discuss it with her before he did it. If you want her to show you the courtesy of discussing things with you with things concerning your daughter, you really need to show her the same courtesy. It may seem like a minor thing to you. But there may be something down the road that she sees as no big deal, but you do. And I am sure you will appreciate it if she comes to you first before acting.

At any rate, welcome to Momsview! I hope you enjoy it here!

By Amy~moderator on Thursday, January 29, 2004 - 11:39 am:

I also agree that it would have been the best thing to discuss it with her mother first. In my own personal opinion, I don't see anything wrong with it though.

By Fireplug98 on Thursday, January 29, 2004 - 02:23 pm:

Hey everyone !! Thanks for all your imput so far. I have sent her an email saying that although I don't have a problem with Britt getting her ears pierced, I should have considered her (my exwife) feelings about it and I apologized. I also said that if it was the case that she wanted to do this with our daughter, then I apologize again for steping on her toes if I did.

This is a great site ! I value all your comments as parents. Thanks again for all your feedback so far.

Tommy J.

By Melanie on Thursday, January 29, 2004 - 03:04 pm:

You did the right thing, Tommy. I have a feeling she will really appreciate that e-mail!

By Bobbie on Thursday, January 29, 2004 - 09:18 pm:

Good job Tommy. And this is a great site...

By Colette on Friday, January 30, 2004 - 07:24 am:

You did the right thing w/the email. Hope you enjoy this site.

By Pandamamaoo4 on Thursday, February 12, 2004 - 12:44 pm:

We have 4 dd and all of them had their ears done before they were 6 months old..no problem there... youngest just got her 3rd hole and shes 9...we maded sure she was gonna take care of them and she has so far..dd1 has 4/5...dd2 has 3/4...dd3 has 3/3 wants one more but that has to wait till the grades come up.. dd4 is straight A's no trouble at all...not a punker either shes a girlie girl and she'll tell you THAT!!!
I would NEVER have one of their ears done without Dad knowing.....It is called communication....Remember it goes both ways!!

By Zoemarcov on Wednesday, March 10, 2004 - 04:55 pm:

I dont have any problems with double piercing. i had 5 piercings in one ear and 2 in the other when i was 13. thing is, if your kids are really serious about wanting piecings, you should think about letting them get them - my mom wouldnt let me have more than 3 piercings so i did 2 of them myself with a needle.they went infected and i had to take them out. if my mom had let me get them done in a shop they would have been fine.

By Singlemommy7782 on Friday, March 12, 2004 - 01:58 pm:

I am a young mom, so it was not that long ago that I was arguing with my mother about piercings. I think that if the worse your daughter is going to do is pierce her ears then thats fine. Remember piercings can come out! Other parts of the body, I think you need to rember the apperance it will give off if she is looking for a job (facial) other then that I think it is okay. My mom always told me when I am eighteen if I wanted something besides my ears that if it is what I want it is my money and my body.