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Moms View Message Board: Parenting Discussion: Archive January-June 2003: Rpivate Parts
OK someone posted something and it got me wondering what do your kids call private parts. Male or female?
We use the correct terms in our house, just like all the other body parts. An elbow is an elbow, a nose is a nose, a penis is a penis, a vagina is a vagina,... and so on.
We use both sets of words. Both my kids know the right words, my daughter knows she has a Vagina and my son knows he has a penis. But, sometimes she calls her Vagina her "peepee". If I ask her the difference between a boy dog and a girl dog she tells me the boys have penis's and girl dogs have vaginias
I always taught mine the proper names. They are going to learn slang terms for them soon enough. Knowing the proper terms for them is, IMO, as important as teaching them manners, right from wrong, etc.
We also use the correct terms.
Correct terms here too. Syd says "Gina." She loves to say "NIP!" for nipples. Aggh! LOL! We haven't talked about a penis thus far. I don't say urinate though. I do say "Do you have to potty? Or poop?" I say "boo boo" too. My DH and I said that before she came along, so I wasn't about to change that!
Our kids know the right words for thier private parts......We don't use the *correct* words all the time, BUT they do know the correct words. And will use the correct ones when neccassary.
Timmy doesn't have a clue what a women parts are so why tell him what they are called. And for the male parts he has always called it his noodle. I just don't like him using the word "penis" so for now we will stick with noodle. It sounds better coming from a 4 yr. old and he is so open about things that I don't know what he would say to who about his parts.
My daughters also know the correct words for their private parts (and boy parts too), but my youngest daughter still occasionally uses a nickname for hers.
Tonya,,,ROFLMBO Noodle is so funny...! I haven't heard that one.
Stori are you ready for this one. Timmy's best friend calls his a DINGER. He spent the night back in the fall and they were bathing and he said Miss Tonya look Timmy's DINGER is huge. Needless to say I thought Rich and I were going to fall over trying not to laugh cause this little boy was so serious. He is 1 month older but comes from a short family and he is also short. So he is also small in that area as his father says is an unlucky family trait.
We use the correct words with our son. The reason I do this is while taking a Child Development class in college they talked about Child Abuse and if you want a better chance of conviction against the &*&*!@ who does this then your child should know the correct terms.
I agree, Andi! While teaching I attended several workshops concerning abuse. One of the biggies was to teach children the proper names for genitals for the reasons you mentioned. One example given was as follows. A Kindergartener told her teacher someone had touched her "cupcake". Understandably, the teacher thought the child was referring to her snack. It later came to light that the girl was trying to disclose that someone had been inappropriately fondling her. If she had used the proper terms in the first place there would have been NO mistaking what she was trying to communicate. As you said, I hope this is NEVER an issue with my kids but I'd rather be safe than sorry.
I always used the correct terms. One of my coworkers uses a lot of nicknames for private parts and other things, and I cannot tell you how hard it is to keep a straight face when I hear a bright 39 year old woman refer to peepees and poopies.
Trina i'm glad you brought that up again because after the first time you told that story i taught the boys the correct terms..Of course sometimes they don't say them and they will call it their Mr.Winky lol but if need be they do know the correct terms..
Correct names here. I agree with Andi. Children who use correct names are less likely to be victimized and if they are, are more likely to tell and be believed.
My X-SIL and her significant other taught my nephew to call his penis a d**k. I was so offended when I heard him at around age 6 refer to that particular body part that way. I asked them *why* they let him say that, and the response from her significant other was *he's going to call it that anyway when he' older*. I asked them if they realized how crude and offensive that sounded, coming from a 6 y/o. Some people just don't get it, that is just plain ignorant to me.
We use the proper names in our home. I do not see anything offensive or bad about a young child saying penis, vagina, breast, or nipple. Afterall, it's basically the same thing as teaching them to say nose or thumb. They are all body parts. I grew up in a house where private parts were not talked about (we definitely were not taught correct terminology) so I grew up thinking that these parts were so bad you didn't use any words for them. The stigma was so bad that my mom didn't even find out I had started my period until I had had it three times and she only found out because I was flushing the pads I swiped from her and clogged the septic tank. I didn't tell her because I was so ashamed about what was happening to my body. I never want my children to feel that way about their bodies.
I've always remembered that cupcake story that Trina told...that is why children should know the correct names for body parts. I try to be as open and honest with my girls as I can be. Almost every night, my oldest daughter wants to talk about her impending period! Ya know, there is only so much you can say about periods. ;)
LOL Kathy! She won't be so thrilled once *it's* here! :-)
A little late posting, but we also use the proper names for boy and girl parts. My DD's are ages 3 and 4 and they know that mommy has a vagina and daddy has a penis. We've referred to "those parts" by the correct term from the time they were little. They also know that those are private parts etc.
It is so important to use the proper terms, especially for the private parts. To comment on what Trina had said. I once had a student tell me that her canary was hurt. Obviously, I thought she was referring to a pet. Later, I discovered that she was actually referring to her vaginal area. She had worn a dress to school and had fallen and hurt herself...luckily that was all it was but it could have been much worse.
Paula, when Jen was 2 or so, she couldn't say *vagina*, and she called it her *donna*. Don't ask me where that came from, I had always said *vagina* to her, but for a while she said *donna*. Madison, who is 2, calls it her *ginie*. But they were both taught from the beginning, the proper word.
Proper names here, also. I will say, however, that when my kids started school they did pick up some "nicknames" for their private parts. Among them, "wheiner, wee-willie-winkie, wheinie," well, you get the picture. *sigh* Life with boys...
Jessica knows the proper names, but she says girls have vagina or pee pee and boys have peanuts. I told her that boys have a penis and she came up with peanuts.
ROFL - some of them really *do* have peanuts!!!!!
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