Okay well I asked for it! His teachers are just taking andrew for andrew, so he gets special rules, special exceptions etc. So instead of getting conduct marks, they just ignore him. Well great, but then I have no idea really how he is doing and then I don't have an accurate picture of him at school. So I go to ARDs and am caught off guard by behavior issues that were NEVER mentioned to me...UGH. So I complained about this.

So today on his conduct sheet that has been blank all year (we just finished 3 weeks), I have three notes, he wouldn't do this, he wouldn't do that, he completely disregarded his teacher when asked to put something away, she took it and he got it back. Ugh...i know I want to know, but how long before I read his log every day to know that I don't really want to know?!?!

By Mommmie on Monday, September 11, 2006 - 09:37 pm:

Ugh, I never liked the blow-by-blow. Just a summary was enough for me, and an ARD ambush is just uncool. Somewhere in the middle is good. Tell me about patterns of behavior.

If someone reported on my every move at work I'd go insane.

By Tink on Tuesday, September 12, 2006 - 12:19 pm:

Argh! Sometimes, especially with our guys, communication is a double-edged sword. Yes, we want to know if there are problems but I don't need a list of every petty little thing. We had a green, white, yellow, and red card system for a while with Seth. If he got to yellow or red, I got an explanation but if it was just stupid (IMO), insignificant stuff, his teacher or aide didn't bother writing it all down. Would something like that be an option? Then you aren't overloaded with an incident by incident account but you aren't blindsided at the next ARD.

BTW, what does ARD stand for? We don't use that term here, although I'm sure we have something comparable.

{{{Kaye}}}

By Mommmie on Tuesday, September 12, 2006 - 12:23 pm:

ARD is Texan for IEP meeting. Stands for Admission, Review, and Dismissal or something like that.

By Lauram on Saturday, September 16, 2006 - 04:04 pm:

Actually, I get most frustrated by vague comments like "He had a difficult day." That really tells me nothing and gets upset. I, personally, would prefer a blow by blow, or just to not know- except for the big stuff. I really get upset when I can tell that the people communicating with me are frustrated....

By Kaye on Sunday, September 17, 2006 - 08:11 am:

LOL my one of my notes on thursday said "he had a hard time settling down after lunch".

Friday I got a note from a student teacher. Hmmm, don't love that. It was "he was drawing during instructions for math", however the math page came home and he had an 100, so is it that big of deal?