I had a transition meeting this morning for my ds who will be at the Jr. High next year. (Yikes!) To remind you, he has learning disabilities (dyslexia) , and ADD. He has not been doing well this last quarter...not only is math becoming increasingly a problem, he has seemingly ceased all effort to get his work done, is hanging around with the wrong crowd, and just doesn't seem to care. We have decided to have him in the resource room for reading AND math next year. (This year, he's just in the resource room for reading.) I'm okay with that, it's just his lack of effort that has me worried. I know some of it is the age. (He'll be 12 in 2 weeks.) He is much more concerned with the social aspect of things, and he is the consumate "class clown." He's such a good kid, and he's actually very bright. But, I'm afraid he's getting frustrated with academics, and "checking out." It was just a very difficult morning, emotionally. I did what I HATE doing...crying in the meeting! Arrggg! I know many of you have BTDT, and I just needed a few hugs. It's so hard sometimes, isn't it?

By Cat on Friday, March 11, 2005 - 11:11 am:

{{{{{Michele}}}}} Yep, btdt. I know how hard it can be. We haven't had our transition meeting for Robin yet, but it will be coming soon. There's only 9 weeks of school left! (spring break's coming the week after next for two weeks!) I have already talked to his teacher about him being in the same program next year that he is in now. We are also trying to get him out of the self contained classroom as much as possible. Some days are harder than others. We're here for you. More {{{{{hugs}}}}}.

By Lauram on Friday, March 11, 2005 - 12:13 pm:

CYBERHUG! BTDT! I have a mtg at 230 about my son. Hopefully, I won't cry too!

By Feona on Friday, March 11, 2005 - 05:42 pm:

I know sometimes that it is because they feel they alway fail. So they stop trying. Is that part of the reason?

I would try some extra tutoring also....

By Gammiejoan on Friday, March 11, 2005 - 10:34 pm:

Hugs from here, Michele! I know how you feel. At times I really get emotional about my grandsons. We're here for you anytime you feel the need to vent.

By Happynerdmom on Saturday, March 12, 2005 - 09:13 am:

Thanks, everyone. Of course I feel better today...And you know what, something good is coming out of this. My dh is going to start getting a lot more involved with his son's life. Or should I say, more AREAS in his son's life. He's a great dad, but it was almost like "education" and anything similar fell to me, and he took "sports." KWIM? We had a great talk last night, and I knew that he had school issues himself, but didn't know the extent. OMG! Ds is so much like him! He is going to share his struggles with ds, and I think he's really going to be an encouragement to him. DH is a very successful business man that barely made it through school. (Of course, this was before IEP's, etc.) I just feel very relieved, because it's felt like I have been doing this part on my own, and I'm getting very weary. I hope this makes sense, it feels like I'm rambling, LOL! Anyway, thanks for the hugs. It really does help! You guys are the best.

By Lauram on Saturday, March 12, 2005 - 09:20 am:

I know for me it's helpful to see that family members who are a lot like my ds are successful adults. It's like the "light at the end of the tunnel." The ride in the tunnel is pretty wild, though.....

By Feona on Saturday, March 12, 2005 - 11:52 am:

I just read that a famous actor... Dirty Harry... name - me brain dead... was a c student... He is doing pretty good now... too..