Most horrible person Award goes to my son's teacher
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She only wants him their three hours on Monday, so he can't stay extra
1/2 hour for Thanksgiving party!
Is is a horrible person or what? I despise her. Everyday is how horrible can she be in 3 minutes or less.
If ds wasn't doing so well he would be out of there. (Of course hardly any preschools have openings no either.)
I am officially giving myself most improved person award for not saying anything to her.
I decided I was going to officially stop renting her free space in my head.
Feona, why does she only want him for 3 hours on Monday?? That is just cruel, to exclude him from the party, when he is bound to see something is going on and want to be there. I would give you kudos for not staying anything to her. I probably wouldn't have kept my mouth shut.
He only goes three hours a day of the five hour program.
I asked her today if he was still grabbing toys. She said he was much improved.
I know he doesn't wander anymore.
Just a case of discrimination against a child who is alittle more work than the other kids.
Honestly he is doing very well else I would move him.
Three minutes of torture everyday dropping and picking ds up everyday.
I am afraid to say anything to her because I know it will not come out nice.
Any way don't be a fool like me and think every classroom in a well respected preschool is great.
The teachers aren't paid much more than 10-15 dollars an hour so I don't know what to say.
My husband just left a message for the director of the school regarding the party.
I would definitely call it discrimination. I hope things improve with that teacher.
If there is not other way, I'd stay with him on Monday. He shouldn't miss something everyone else is involved in.
I don't think I can take the teacher anymore.
I can't keep biting my tongue. It is going to make me sick.
I start off on Monday with a fresh attitude, then by Friday I am a nervous tired wreck. Over the weekend I recover, but this isn't healthy.
The teacher has a toxic personality.
I don't even understand how someone could not invite a three year old to a class party. It makes me sick to think about it.
I am not even going to say anything when we leave. Teacher is a friend of the with director.
The teacher asked for extra help in the classroom, so we got her help, now she is complaining she has to coordinate too many schedules for the help she requested.
If you're not going to make sure he can stay for the party, then keep him home that day.
Is he the only one that has to leave???
I would keep him home for the day Monday, Feona. That is just awful what the teacher is doing. 
I think I will switch him after thanksgiving to another school. I need to prepare for thanksgiving so he is going to school on Monday. He also gets private speech teacher on Monday and he has two hours of private special help which I don't want him to miss.
I found a school with 7 kids and 2 teachers that has openings. It is a great teacher student ratio. The director was very sweet and talked to me for 2 hours a week ago. It isn't a very fancy looking school but it has an outdoor play area and and indoor play area. They have speech and ot people coming in and out of the school and are used to seit teachers. I really just am doing the school for socialization skills, because he is way advanced in academic skills for his age.
Seems being with me is most of the day is very good for ds. I was worried that I was delaying his progress some how, but now I see it isn't my fault and that being around me is very benefitial to him even though the school is making me a nervous wreck. I assure you this stress isn't helping my parenting skills.
Okay. Here it is on Sunday and I am all recovered again.
We can start a bet. When will Feona loose it with the teacher?
I am getting my husband involved now. We are going to ask for gym and lunch three days a week since he already is doing gym and Lunch 2 days a week sucessfully.
Sick of being a doormat for the bully teacher.
I got another school set up for him so I am not afraid of pushing back with dh help.
Hi,
I am new here but feel the need to butt right in...LOL
Feona, I do not know the history on your child but honestly it really doesnt matter.
I am assuming today was the Party? I sincerely hope you dressed up like a Pilgrim and went to his school and BOTH of you stayed for the party.
Tripp, our little miracle, has changed schools 4 times and we have finally "hit gold". I would do the same thing all over again if I had to. Keep looking until you are happy and he is treated fairly.
Tam
My husband called the director.
I dropped ds off at the school and all of a sudden it was a misunderstanding.
The seit teacher he gets for two hours a day understood exact what I understood. There was no understanding, but I am letting it go for now.
Ds is being treated nicely. Get goes for 3 hours and has a special ed teacher - Seit teacher just for him about 2 and 1/4 hours a day. School district is very generous to ds. Seit teacher says teachers is very nice to him.
I really don't want to move him because he is doing wonderful. He is thriving being with mommy most of the day and school three hours a day - five days a week.
If I move preschools and he doesn't do well, I might consider having to put him on a bus for three hours a day and special school with other distracted kids for 6 hours a day. Total 9 hours a day gone - five days a week.
I think ds is focusing lovely at regular school. He was so distracted when he was with other distracted kids.
Don't want exhausted child that I can't take to park or gymnastics or library.
I am too afraid to change schools. I will just try to put my son first and my feelings second.
When I orignally told my husband that they told me to pick ds up before the party, he looked so hurt. I cried about it several times all week end. I have 1 bad sleepless night where I prayed about the situation and my angry feeling and gave the whole mess up to god. Helped alot. I couldn't handle my feelings regarding the whole mess.
I did tell the teacher that I was crying about the situation all weekend and she looked sorry. I didn't say anything at the time because I am afraid of losing my temper and getting ds kicked out of the school. I don't know, it is a big mess. Actually I am glad I didn't lose my temper. Like I said ds is doing very well.
He is almost ready to start learning to read. Quite advanced in many areas. Catching up in speech by leaps and bounds the last three weeks. I am thrilled actually and very grateful for the school for helping us get so much services for ds and letting him stay in the school though he is more work for the teachers than the other kids because he is distracted.
I don't know what state you live in but you might want to check into your childs rights. I found out after the fact that my 4yr. would have qualified for a early intervention program had I been told about it. He is currently in the pre-k program at our local elem. school. He goes 3 1/2 hrs and day and has a aide that assists him while he's at school. My sons teachers' like him when he's being normal but if he's having a rough day the aide says that they don't have the patience to deal with him.
When I first thought about sending ds to school I had the same thoughts about not wanting to put this added burden on the class or the teacher but I've come to realize that he has just has much right to be there as anyone else . He has done better in two months at school than eight months in private theraphy.
Find out what your school district / state is required to provide for your child. Don't let them make you feel like they are doing you a favor when it might what they need to be doing.
I'll follow up with a web site I was given about children's right after I've checked it out and make sure it's the right web page.
Good luck
I am going to practice letting things go. I think I hang on to things to fast. I just want to let go of anger as soon as I see it.
Definitely I should stop talking to the teacher. Just be pleasent.
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